There are certain things about you, which will always be unique to you. Perhaps you’re shorter in height or are taller. Maybe you just talk naturally fast. You might have long fingers. You might be a little slow at maths. Perhaps you have a particular dress style. OK, so you get the picture. Do you like the way you are? If so, then this is great.
Or do you find yourself disliking yourself, or perhaps even hating yourself because of the way you are? Such emotions never really help. If you’re experiencing such things, then the following 7 ways to accept yourself will help you:
1. Look to accept yourself first
If you’re finding it hard to accept yourself for whom you are, then you might engage in self-contempt, feel guilty or perhaps blame others. Instead, give an order to the commissioning part of your mind to always focus on acceptance, tolerance and flexibility of the way you are first.
2. Focus on what you can do
Rather than focusing on your own perceived flaws, emphasise on what you can do and what your strengths are. Even better is to write down your strengths, to help reinforce that they are characteristics about you that you can be proud of.
3. Find examples of other people
With their being 7 billion people in the world, it is guaranteed there will be someone else in the world who is totally comfortable with themselves. It could be someone as close as a really good friend of yours, to a famous person you often see on the TV. If that person can be happy with themselves, despite their particular characteristic(s), then so can you.
4. Practice acceptance from a position of power
Acceptance isn’t resigning to the fact that you are a certain way and staying down in the dumps about your life. When you do practice acceptance, do so from a position of empowerment. Accept yourself as the way you and decide to make the most of what you have in your life.
5. Do what you can to create change
There are certain things about you, which you can’t change. However, there a number of things you can change. A common one is your weight. If you’re currently overweight, then you can certainly exercise more to lose some pounds. If you don’t like your clothes, you can change your current threads with some updated outfits.
6. Tell yourself
The way you talk to yourself impacts how you feel. Create a habit then to make yourself feel better, by telling yourself that you accept yourself and love yourself unconditionally.
7. Be prepared to make effort
Practicing and developing self-acceptance will involve developing new behaviours. It will take some time for these to internalise. Be prepared for setbacks and expect your ego to want to destroy any progress you make, either through creating doubt, worry or negative self-talk. When this happens, become objective to any unhelpful thoughts and emotions and continue with the faith that these are just expected stumbling blocks, which are a part of the journey.
My friends, it’s over to you:
• In what other ways can we accept ourselves?
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