Do you find yourself always talking and not letting others get a word in? Do you often say things without thinking, when having a conversation, which ends up creating conflict? Would you like to take more time before responding to others, or appreciate the views of people, without always being right? If so, check out the following tips to help you be quieter:
Put yourself into other’s shoes
When you’re talking to another person, it can be easy to continue speaking, because you’re keen to say what you want to. By doing this however, you can forget that there is person in front of you, who is actually listening and wants to contribute to the discussion.
If you find yourself caught up in endless talking, mentally switch positions and put yourself into the shoes of the person you’re talking with. Now, look at yourself through the eyes of the other person. When you do this, how do you look when you see yourself chattering away?
This switch in perspective can help you to stop talking as much and allow the other person to speak, in order to create a more balance conversation.
Make an effort to pause
If you find it hard to stop talking, then make a conscious effort to pause for a few seconds before responding back to another person. By doing this, you’ll give your brain some more time to consider a thoughtful response rather than replying back in an impulsive way.
Stop interrupting people
When other people are talking, you might become compelled to have your say on a topic. Resist the urge to do so and allow the other person to finish what he/she has said before responding.
Channel your talking energy
Another technique you can use to say less, is to use the energy behind your wanting to speak a lot, to do other activities, like exercising, going for a stroll, listening to music or reading a book, or a blog.
Quieten your mind
Your thoughts can often be a precursor to your wanting to talk. Take out 5 minutes every day to meditate, focus on your breathing and observe your thoughts without reacting to them. By doing this, you will develop the ability to resist the urge to respond to those thoughts that would have resulted in you saying something.
Spend time with quiet people
Do you have a friend, a family member, or a colleague who you get on with, and is someone you would consider as being more quiet and thoughtful? If so, spend time with that person. By doing so, you will be able to notice his/her peaceful demeanour and get ideas on how you can adopt similar characteristics.
Soften your voice and speak slower
If you have a tendency to talk really loud then lower the volume of your speech. This will help you to sound quieter. Also, if the pace at which you talk is very fast, then slow down the delivery of your speech.
My friends, it’s over to you:
• Have you been trying to become quiet? If so, what ways have you been using to do so?
• Do you already consider yourself to be a quiet person? If so, what advice would you give to others who want to practice becoming quiet?
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