NLP techniques for stuttering

If you’re looking for NLP techniques for stuttering, or stammering, in this article, I’m going to share 5 techniques which you can start using today. The NLP techniques for stuttering are geared to helping you challenge unhelpful beliefs you may have about stuttering. Each technique uses an example scenario of a person who stutters and the problem the individual is trying to address. You can use each technique on a similar problem you might be facing, or any other issues related to stuttering. I’ve also included some useful questions you can ask when implementing each of the techniques. If you have questions about any of the techniques, please leave a comment in the comments box and I will get back to you.

 

1. Is it really good for my health?

With the ‘Is it really good for my health?’ technique, you look at the current belief you have about stuttering and exam it like a doctor would exam you if were feeling ill.

With this approach, you consider whether the belief you have is limiting or enhancing your life.

Example

Daniel has a presentation coming up at college and is worrying like crazy about it. He has been telling himself that he just won’t be able to give the presentation without stuttering.

Daniel has been using the ‘Is it really good for my health?’ technique.

He looks at his belief and asks himself whether it helps his current situation? He asks himself if the belief empowers him and whether it helps him to feel more positive.

Of course the answers to all these questions is no. This alone helps in lessening his worry, and he is now encouraged to make the most of the time he has left to learn his presentation and rehearse it several times, so he can deliver it fluently.

Useful questions for this technique

Questions that can be very helpful to ask yourself when using the ‘Is it good for my health?” technique are:

Does this belief really help me at this moment?

Does it limit or enhance my life?

Does it help my mind to remain balanced?

 

2. Is this my identity?

With the ‘Is this my identity?’ technique, you take a limiting belief you currently have about yourself and stuttering, and you consider whether you want such a belief to describe you.

Example

Annie is currently looking for a new job, and is reading a job description for a sales assistant in a clothes shop on a job website. She has always fancied working a clothes shop because she likes fashion. However, she has been telling herself there’s no point in her even applying because her stuttering would prevent her come communicating with customers. This makes her feel worthless.

Annie has been using the ‘Is this my identity?’ technique.

She thinks about whether this is the way she wants to think of herself, as someone who always avoids going for the jobs she wants to because she is afraid she might stutter?

And of course, she doesn’t.

Useful questions for this technique

Questions that can be very helpful to ask yourself when using the ‘Is this my identity?” technique are:

Do I really want this limiting belief about myself to define me?

Do I want this belief to be one of the characteristics of my identity?

 

3. View of the world

With this approach, you look at your belief about stuttering as just a view and not as a real thing. Doing so allows you to observe the belief objectively, enabling you to create some distance from it, making the initial belief less rigid.

You also begin to challenge the belief by considering whether is it is ‘real’, as in an object, which can be held, seen or heard.

Example

Dennis has been really stressed because his office’s Christmas party is coming up soon. He keeps telling himself that he won’t be able to converse with colleagues sitting next to and opposite him, and because of this, he’ll look weird.

Dennis has been using the ‘View of the world’ technique.

He writes down the belief he currently has onto a piece of paper. He then begins to analyse it and asks himself who taught him to think this way and whether his colleagues would believe the same about him. He also considers whether what he is telling himself is really real.

Of course, he realises that it was him, himself who created the belief and his colleagues would definitely not believe the same, as they talk to him every day at the office. He also considers whether he can actually pick up this belief that he won’t be able to converse with colleagues at the Christmas party and hold the belief in his hands.

And the answer is he can’t as it is just a belief he has created himself.

Useful questions for this technique

Questions that can be very helpful to ask yourself when using the ‘View of the world?” technique are:

How did I come to this conclusion?

Who taught me to think this way?

Does everyone think and believe this?

Is it just something I’ve created myself?

Can I hold this belief in my hands?

 

4. Using value

Using value is about looking at what you really value in life and considering whether your limiting belief about stuttering is one which supports what you truly give value to. You consider whether such a belief is something you really care about.

Example

Lynne has a limiting belief about her stuttering, which is that she will be a failure if she doesn’t speak fluently when asking a question to her lecturer during a history class.

Lynne has been the ‘Using value’ technique to help overcome this limiting belief.

She thinks about what she values in her life, which is always giving everything her best go. She then considers whether her belief that she will be a failure if she doesn’t speak fluently, when asking her lecturer a question during her history class, helps her to live her life with the value of always giving it her best go.

When she puts it like this, she realises that such a belief does not support what she values.

Useful questions for this technique

Questions that can be very helpful to ask yourself when using the ‘Using value’ technique are:

What do I really value in life?

When I take these values and consider the limiting belief I have about stuttering, does this limiting belief allow me to live my life where I’m living out what I value?

 

5. Using positive intention

With this technique, you take an unhelpful limiting belief about stuttering and instead of focusing on the negative statement; you explore the positive intention behind it.

By doing this, you can create a sense of understanding for why you currently believe your current belief and learn to do something else instead.

Example

Wendy is getting nervous about a date she has coming up with a guy called Brad. She is feeling under stress, is worrying, and tells herself Brad will think badly of her when he realises she has a stutter.

Wendy has been using the ‘Positive intention’ technique.

She thinks of any positive intention lurking in the background behind her believing this and she understands the reason, which is because she wants to make a good impression on Brad as its they’re first date.

She remembers that Brad has dyslexia and that she doesn’t judge him because of this. Therefore, there’s no reason for Brad to judge her because of her stuttering, as no one is perfect.  Wendy also remembers that a first date is nerve-racking for both people involved.

Wendy then considers how else she can make a good impression on Brad, and decides to really listen and show interest in what Brad has to say during the date.

Useful questions for this technique

Questions that can be very helpful to ask yourself when using the ‘Positive intention” technique are:

What is my positive intention in believing that?

What could I do which will still give me the results of my positive intention but in a better and healthier way than the current belief?

 

Bibliography

Dilts, R., 1999. Sleight of Mouth: The Magic of Conversational Belief Change. Capitola, CA: Meta Publications.

Hall, L.M. and Bodenhamer, B.G., 1997. Mindlines: Lines for Changing Minds. Clifton, CO: Neuro-Semantics Publications.

 

NLP coaching for stuttering

Are you interested in how NLP can help you to overcome the fear and anxiety of stuttering? You might want to take a look at the coaching I offer for people who stutter, or stammer.

 

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