With 2014 not too far away, Ihope you’ve got some exciting plans in place for your personal growth and development.

However, there is one factor, which might try and stop you in your quest to increase your confidence, your performance or whatever it is you want to do – your ego.

No big deal though. This is what the ego does. It tries to protect you from danger and risk.

However, many times your ego doesn’t really help. Below are some situations where your ego might get activated, along with tips on what you can do:

You’ve not been able to change so far, so why try now?

Here your ego is telling you why even bother? And it has good intentions, especially if you’ve never tried pushing yourself. Your ego is trying to get you to believe that you’ve been the way you are for too long, you are stuck with it and you can’t change. It tries to keep you the same, and is comfortable with the way you are. It thrives on this.

However, what your ego leads you to believe is false. Because as soon as you start to do things differently or behave differently, and experience that you can change, you can doubt your ego. This is obviously something it doesn’t want, so it will try and hold you back.

You suddenly think you’re better

You can also go to the other extreme and make so much progress you think you’re better than anyone, now.

If you’re ego becomes too large, then it’s useful to remember where you were and where you’ve now got too. Life wasn’t always easy for you. Why suddenly think you’re better than others when you know what it feels like to be in a bad place?

You become too focused on competing

A dose of competition can do wonders to get your motivation going. However, if you’re constantly comparing yourself to others and believe you don’t have as much money as that person down your local gym, or your colleague is better than you at making sales etc. then your ego has taken over.

Remember, people will always be better than you. Unless you’re playing in a team based sport, then the clue is the name – personal development; personal meaning keep your progress personal and compare only to yourself.

You don’t want to help others

If selfishness creeps in, then your ego has taken over. It has become all about you and self-gains, and anyone else doesn’t even get a look in. Beware as you now risk not being able to nurture your existing relationships and developing new ones.

It might be worth reminding yourself just how much your relationships with others helped you to get to the stage at which you’re at.

The day you stop wanting to help others and only think of yourself, is the day to actually go out and do something for someone else, without expecting anything in return.

You can’t stop talking about yourself

Don’t get me wrong. Being able to talk yourself up is important. If you don’t, no one else will.

However, avoid a bragging frenzy and don’t forget to find out about other people, who are important and also want to share their stories and achievements.

My friends, it’s over to you:

• In what other ways might your ego raise its head in the New Year? What can you do to help yourself when it does so?
• Please share your valuable views, experiences and thoughts in the comments box below.
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