You find yourself with an unfamiliar group of people. You might have to speak. You become anxious. You start to sweat and then you avoid talking altogether.
The anxiousness has a key characteristic. It arises and then it passes away. Sometimes it might last for a longer period. But it still goes away.
Yet, you still identify so much with the anxiety. You become the anxiety.
But it still goes away.
It doesn’t make sense to identify with something that doesn’t last.