7 Ways to Increase Your Happiness

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We all want to be happy in life. We all want to enjoy our days, months and years. However, sometimes it is happiness that can seem like the most difficult thing to obtain. If you want to increase your happiness, the following tips will help you:

Choose to be happy

Happiness is a choice. You can either feel bad about yourself and the situations you find yourself in. Or instead, you can use your power of choice and choose to be happy. When you make a conscious decision to face the world with a cheerful attitude, you set yourself up with the basis to smile in the face of any adversity that your daily activities might bring.

Don’t react to the stimuli

The outside world will throw all kinds of stimuli at you all day long. People will say things to you. Events will happen. By constantly reacting in ways that leave you feeling bad, you’re at the mercy of your surroundings. When something happens, pause before responding. Learning to not always react to what happens around you is a sure way to help keep your mind balanced, and maintain your happiness.

Spend time with people

If you’re already a social butterfly, then this one shouldn’t be an issue for you. On the other hand, if you’re not getting out and about and connecting with others, it can take a big hit on your self-esteem and confidence. Spend time with your family and friends. We are by nature social, and our happiness rises when we’re surrounded by people who care about us and inspire us.

Take it slowly

One of the great things about living is being able to analyse areas where you can make improvements in your life, be it professionally, personally, spiritually or socially. However, wanting to do too many things at once is a guaranteed way to burn out. Instead, do one or two things first and learn to do them well, before moving onto bigger and more challenging activities.

Do what you enjoy

Yes, you’ve read this one many times. However, I include it because it is true. Sure, you’re schedule is busy. However, make time to do what you enjoy at least once a week, even if it’s for a couple of hours. Engage in activities that really nourish your mind-body and spirit.

Forgive

Indeed, it can be hard to let go of injustices carried out against you by others. However, carrying onto past hurts just brings back unnecessary pain. Forgiveness really is the key ingredient for emotional freedom.The benefits of doing so can be improvements in your relationships, helping others to get on with their lives and of course enabling you to get on with yours.

Keep breaking down barriers

If you feel your life is lacking in anyway then do set yourself some goals to improve yourself. The confidence you will gain from overcoming fears and improving your performance will do wonders for you, and of course you will become happier in the process.

My friends, it’s over to you:

• In what other ways can we increase our happiness?
• Please share your valuable views, experiences and thoughts in the comments box below.
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50 Comments
  1. This is a post about one of the essential things to know in life – how to be happy?

    And, I completely agree with you when you say that – happiness is a choice. What’s more left to say? I will be happy if I want to, and if I’m sad, then I’ve chosen that option. I should not blame anyone or anything for that. I always have the option to use my intellect and logic to make myself understand the people, situations, or things, and look for options and reasons to make me happy.

    I can even ask rather than assume things and be unhappy. You’re right – if you let circumstances and stimuli affect and operate you, you’ll be dancing to their tunes like a puppet and eventually suffer.

    You’ve pointed out at multi-tasking as a possible factor of unhappiness, and that’s very true. It’s difficult to do so many things and be perfect in them all, and if you’ve such expectations, then you feel sad later.

    We can even increase our happiness by adopting simplicity in life in everything we do. Being in the moment, and being content while also being positive are some of the other ways to be happy.

    Thanks for this post Hiten, it has really simplified the process to be happy in sweet, simple, and short ways. The awareness it creates will spread more happiness in the world. 🙂

    1. Hi Harleena,

      Many thanks for writing such a wonderful comment and for sharing some excellent insights on this topic.

      Indeed, I loved the way you broke down further how we can choose to be happy. As you stated, we all have logic and intellect and we can use these tools in ways to serve us and stay optimistic.

      I can so appreciate what you wrote about asking rather than assuming. A lack of proper communication with people can easily result in misunderstandings that we and others can attach incorrect meanings too, which leaves one of both parties feeling bad.

      Absolutely, another excellent way to increasing our happiness is to adopt simplicity and a minimalistic lifestyle.

      I’m so glad you liked the post, Harleena and thanks for your words of appreciation. Have a wonderful week, ahead.

  2. Important topic, my friend. I can say a whole lot about this, having devoted many months studying and discussing happiness in two book groups using “Happiness Now” by Robert Holden. I’m so with you that happiness is a choice. Beyond that, it’s really about not trying to “find” or “chase” happiness, because true happiness is our true essence. Per Dr. Holden, it doesn’t come and go. What comes and goes instead is our awareness of the fact that, by nature, we’re already happy. When we don’t feel it, it’s because we’ve distracted ourselves with other things. So, I try to remember that things I want bring me pleasure and delight. But, my happiness doesn’t depend on them. I can always choose to be happy, regardless of what’s around me. Thanks for introducing this topic, Hiten!

    1. Hi Alice,

      You wrote such a wonderful comment and I much appreciate you sharing your insights on this topic. Indeed, your blog is a wonderful resource to learn more about understanding what real happiness is and how to experience it.

      As you quite rightly said, happiness is a natural state for all of us. However, our true self gets hidden by layers created by the ego, which makes us believe that we are what we experiencing at the surface levels.

      I just loved what you wrote about remembering things that do make you feel good but not being dependent on them for your happiness. Developing the ability to live from this frame of mind is definitely worth making efforts for.

      Many thanks for leaving such a brilliant and informative comment, Alice! Have a great week.

  3. Good tips on how to be happy. In fact, its all in the mind and how you choose to live. I like the concept of not reacting to stimuli and its very true. Not reacting to certain things will definitely make you happier, there is no point reacting and then feeling miserable later.

    1. Hi Shalu,

      I’m glad you liked the tips in this post!

      As you quite rightly stated, it is all in the mind. Indeed, with some practice, each one of us has the capacity to train our minds in ways that will serve us better.

      Many thanks for commenting and joining the discussion here, Shalu!

  4. Yes Hiten,
    Many wish to be ‘Happy’ and it all starts with Choice. Once the choice is made, the possibilities (and inevitable probabilities) come flooding through. Many however will battle to find happiness due to circumstances you and I cannot fathom. My wish for those, is to believe that happiness can find a way to come into their world.My prayers are with them.

    Be good to yourself
    David

    1. Hi David,

      I’m really glad you could resonate with and emphasise further the point about happiness starting as a choice we make. Indeed, there are many people in the world for who happiness will not be a choice, such as those from the poorest parts of the world where food, water and shelter is scarce. I join you to pray for such individuals and communities.

      Many thanks for adding to the discussion, David.

  5. people are always going to make you count your weaknesses.
    They are there to make you remember your failures.
    There are only a few who talk about your accomplishments.
    What you have to do is not to pay much heed to what people have to say about you.
    That is the only way to be happy in this world.

    1. Hi Yogesh,

      Welcome to the blog and many thanks for writing such a wonder comment!

      What you wrote about being vigilant and careful to not pay much attention to what people say about us makes so much sense. Absolutely, these who will talk about our accomplishments will always be less than those who remember our failures. I always try and remember those few people who really do believe in me and use this as a resource at times when needed.

      Thanks a lot for adding so much more to this post, Yogesh.

      1. those people who believe in us are the only ones whom we should pay the attention.
        There is no point in wasting any time to get demotivated by the negative points made by others about us.
        Thanks for the reply!

  6. hey Hiten – your first two points are spot on. Happiness is indeed a choice and learning to let life pass by without having our happiness stolen are two positive tips for having more happiness in our lives. Happiness is really an inside job and once we realize that, we can experience happiness. We can’t let outside circumstances dictate our internal happiness because outside circumstances always change, shift, etc. some circumstances will not be to our liking. But if we realize we can be happy in spite of what happens in our lives, we will be happier and more content always.

    This past year, Ive been doing a lot of what I enjoy and more importantly trying to cut out things I don’t. I say no more which allows me to say yes to myself and my values more. It may not make other people as happy:) but I’ve found more happiness in opting to focus on things which bring me happiness. It may sound selfish but I’m fairly certain when we shine the torch of happiness, it will shine on all those around us.

    1. Hi Vishnu,

      I’m really glad you could resonate with the first two points. Indeed as you rightly stated, happiness is an inside job. Just the other day, I was at a social occasion where many elders were seeking happiness in external things like holidays and drinks.

      Ah, what you wrote about not letting outside circumstances control our happiness, as outside circumstances always change was brilliant. I think this one understanding can really be an attitude shifter.

      Many thanks for sharing your experiences of doing more of what you enjoy this year. Indeed, this particular life is too short to continue doing activities we don’t really enjoy or believe in.

      Thanks a lot for adding so much more to this post, Vishnu! 🙂

  7. Hi Hiten!
    I completely agree with all the points ..I practice some of these tips in my real life . I seek happiness through my real life friends(social life) …When ever I’m depressed or sad , my friends cheer me up and i always dd things that i love ..This not only please me but also makes me more passionate towards it .

    -Pramod

  8. Break free and avoid complications. Live below your means and learn to appreciate things. That’s my way of achieving happiness.

    1. Hi Sue,

      It’s great to see you and many thanks for sharing the ways you use to achieve happiness. I can so relate to what you wrote about living below our means and being grateful. I tihink when we live below our means, it helps us to remain humble and even more grateful for what we already have.

      Many thanks for adding so much more to this post, Sue

  9. Wonderful hot tips on how to be happy! I will love to add these points, learn something completely new or improve what you already know. I love to go for a very long walk.
    Thanks for the share.
    Seun

    1. Hi Seun,

      It’s wonderful to see you, my friend and I’m really glad you liked the tips!

      Many thanks for adding the additional ways of increasing our happiness. In particular, I could really appreciate the tips you shared about learning something new and going on long walks.

      Thanks very much for your support, Seun!

  10. Great advice, Hiten! My happiness greatly increase when I found and started to work in areas of passions. My passion is to help people become better leaders through my writing.

    1. Hi Dan,

      I’m so glad you liked the advice, my friend.

      I really appreciate you sharing how your happiness increased. Indeed, working in areas of our passions has the effect of making us feel truly alive.

      I really admire your great efforts in helping us all become better leaders through your writing. Your passion and desire to do so, is so visible in your blog posts.

      Many thanks for joining the discussion here, Dan.

      1. Thanks man, glad my writing and area of passion can help you and others grow and become better leaders. Your writing has greatly helped me as well. Glad we can sharpen each other.

  11. Hiten, I’ve been struggling with happiness lately, even though I know how to be happy.

    Number 3 and 5 are the steps I’ve been taking to bring back happiness. They work, for a bit.

    1. Hi Joe,

      It’s great to you here, my friend and thanks for sharing your experiences of this area.

      I think happiness for many of us fluctuates and at certain times we can happier than other times. What I’ve found useful is to practice different ways to increase my happiness, which has helped me to stay happier more often. It does take a lot of effort though.

      Many thanks for adding so much more to this post, Joe.

  12. Hiten – the first three points are paramount for me. And it’s a constant practice.

    Happiness means different things to different people, so I would say spending some time considering what happiness means is important. It could be meeting new people, personal or professional growth, or simply a Skype call with a friend.

    For me, I know that I need to feel connection. So being around people makes me happy. Otherwise, it’s depression city for me !

    1. Hi Razwana,

      Many thanks for commenting. The first three are the most important for me, too! Perhaps that’s why I unconsciously put them first.

      You made a very important point in that happiness means different things to all of us. One way that makes one person happy might not necessarily work for another person.

      Indeed, I can tell you’re definitely a people person and can appreciate that you would like to be around others.

      Many thanks for commenting and adding more value to the post. Look forward to catching up with you at the weekend.

  13. Many would like to believe that they cannot do anything about feeling miserable. So it’s great that you have pointed out that happiness is pretty much a choice. Once we have made the choice, we will find it easier to direct our thoughts in a more positive direction so that we start to feel better.

    I would like to add that playing with my children makes me happy!

    1. Hi Evelyn,

      You wrote an absolutely brilliant comment. You’re so right. By choosing to be happy, we can as you say, direct our thoughts to positivity.

      I loved what you wrote about how spending time with your kids makes you happy. Indeed, spending time with kids makes me happy, too.

      Many thanks for adding so much more to this post, Evelyn.

  14. Hiten,

    Great post on an important topic! The first one – Choose to be happy – is essential. It is a mindset. We need to adopt it, hug it, and live it out loud!

    One to add is this: Keep learning something new. We keep fresh when we read, we interact, and we open our minds. By learning, we grow. When we grow, we keep and expand our happiness.

    Thanks for the call to live a happy, full life!

    Jon

    1. Hi Jon,

      Many thanks for leaving such a positive comment.

      Indeed, as you said, happiness is a state of mind that we can adopt and we need to do all we can to create happiness within ourselves.

      I loved the additional way you shared of expanding our happiness; namely through learning and growing. This is a wonderful way to increase our happiness.

      Many thanks for adding more value to this post, Jon!

  15. I think being happy all of the time is impossible since as humans, we have a range of emotions that need nourishing in order to feel complete.

    So if we accept that one must feel sad, happy, anxious, angry etc. in order to experience the human condition and to ultimately feel happy overall. We will no longer try to be happy all the time whilst avoiding our other emotions, but rather invite our emotions completely and to feel good about it.

    This is what brings true happiness and satisfaction. 🙂

    1. Hi Onder,

      What you wrote in your comment is so true. Indeed, as you stated, by welcoming in all our emotions, a certain happiness can arise as we’re experiencing fully what it means to be a human.

      Many thanks for adding this wonderful tip to the discussion, Onder!

  16. Hi Hiten – Happiness is always a choice and I’ve learned that if we follow our heart and believe that whatever comes our way is for our good -then we can be truly happy!

    1. Hi Corinne,

      I just loved your comment, and in particular what you wrote about believing that whatever comes our way, is for our own good. This is such resourceful attitude to take.

      Many thanks for adding so much more to this post, Corinne!

  17. Hi Hiten, these are great posts on finding happiness. As it turns out, we don’t FIND happiness at all. Instead, we create it. We create it by choosing to be happy, by not taking ourselves too seriously, and by empowering and engaging with others. None of us were meant to live life alone. Hope you are well!

    1. Hi Bryan,

      It’s wonderful to see you here, and I’m really glad you enjoyed this post.

      I loved what you wrote about engaging with others and empowering people and the link between this and happiness. When we help others, it feels good and also helps to make the people we are helping, happy.

      Many thanks for adding more value to this post, Bryan!

  18. I believe happiness is a choice as well. What a great reminder. Thank you!

    1. Hi Adam,

      Welcome to the blog and I’m glad you too believe that happiness is a choice.

      Thanks for commenting!

  19. Happiness is a simple and sober thing for me with a scientific perspective that happiness can neither be created nor destroyed but can be given from one person to another (being that the person who gives have that HAPPINESS with him/her). I call this law as law of conservation of happiness.

    If you want be make others happy you need to start from your ownself.
    Thanks a lot for such a beautiful post.

    Regards
    Charmie

    1. Hi Charmie,

      I’m so glad you liked the post!

      I just loved what you wrote about happiness. What you wrote about happiness transferring from one person to another makes a lot of sense, and you’re spot on about the importance of being happy with ourselves before making others happy.

      Many thanks for sharing the some great insights on the area, Charmie.

  20. Hey Hiten,

    These are all amazing points. I’d have to say the one that resonated with me the most is “Take it slow.”

    It took me a long time to figure this one out. We live in a “Now” culture where we want to see results very quickly.

    But when I started to figure out that improvement in any regard is a process I instantly felt better. My patience grew and I dedicated myself to long-term improvement.

    Excellent points man.

    1. Hi Kevin,

      It’s wonderful to see you here and I’m so glad you liked the post.

      Many thanks for sharing your experiences with raking it slowly. Indeed, you’re spot on about the current culture where results are expected almost instantly. Most people got caught up in this and it certainly does take conscious effort to plug out of this.

      I liked the approach you used of looking at improvement as a process. A process has a time element to it and as you found, this can be used as a resource to help us slow down.

      Thanks for adding such great insights to this discussion, Kevin!

  21. All excellent points Hiten, but I really believe the first – Choose to be Happy – is the key. So many people search for happiness based on “when I have” or “as soon as” or “if only” and it just doesn’t work that way. Also, choosing happiness doesn’t mean there won’t still be stumbling blocks, it just helps to maintain balance and move through the challenges with less stress. Thanks for the inspiration!

    1. Hi Marty,

      I’m so glad you liked the post, my friend.

      Indeed, I agree with you. Choosing to be happy is the most important. As you said, so many people seek happiness externally and yet they will never be happy. They will always feel like something is missing, unless they have made effortto find real happiness from within.

      Absolutely, I loved what you what you said about how there will be always be stumbling blocks even when we choose to be happy. However, by learning how to choose to be happy, we are giving ourselves a resource to deal with the difficult times.

      Many thanks for leaving such a wonderful comment, Marty!

  22. I do agree with “Forgive” point ! Everyone commit mistakes in their life & few people don’t forgive & they be sad with that sad moment but I understand forgiving is a best part to be happy in life.

    1. Hi Mansi,

      Welcome to the blog! Indeed, learning to be able to forgive is so important. Otherwise, we can spend many years living in resentment. This is not good for ourselves and we can also end up regretting it, especially as we get older and people die. By this time, it is too late.

  23. Awesome work.Just wanted to drop a comment and say I am new to your blog and really like what I am reading.Thanks for the share

    1. Hi Gautams,

      Welcome to the blog and I’m really glad you liked the post!

      Many thanks for commenting!

  24. Great post Hiten! My favorite suggestion is “Don’t React to Stimuli.” It’s easy to get caught up in the moment and make rash judgements that have long lasting consequences.

    Slowing down and gaining clarity is key.

    Don’t react, respond.

    Great word! Glad I found your blog.

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