Empowering Attitudes to Help You Deal with Life Problems

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Are you experiencing a problem in your life? Perhaps it’s something in your personal life. Maybe it’s a problem you’re experiencing at work. Sometimes all it takes to overcome a problem is a quick shift in attitude or perception.

Below are some powerful attitudes you can start taking today to overcome a problem you might be facing:

It’s an opportunity

A problem only becomes one if you see it that way. Another way of looking at a problem is to see it as an opportunity.

When you look at a problem as an opportunity it becomes something that helps you to grow, because that’s what opportunities do.

I’ve overcome them before

It is very likely that the difficulty you’re currently experiencing is not the first time you have ever done so.

Remember other times when you faced an adversity and overcame it. You’ve already done it before. This then is evidence you can do it again.

Someone else has overcome the problem

The problem you’re going through is the same one that countless other people have been through and have have dealt with.

If it is a human possibility to overcome your issue, then it means you can too.

It’s a game

You can look at the problem as a move life has made, such as in a game of chess. It’s now your turn to see if you can outplay this move and come out on top.

Life would be boring

Imagine your life where everything was made simple and you could do everything. This might sound great, right?

However, how long will it be until you actually get bored because you’re not being stretched to your full limit? You need problems to work on and overcome in order to keep developing as a person.

It can be broken down into bits

If you’re being overwhelmed by a problem, consider whether it can be broken down into smaller pieces. After you’ve done this, focus on solving each piece first before moving onto the next.

By doing this, you reduce the amount of stress you might experience when solving your problem, drastically.

I can always get help

If you’re feeling stuck, then remember you’re not alone. Have you gathered all the resources you can get hold of to help you? What books, websites and other information sources can help you to solve the problem?

Don’t forget the most important resource either – other people. Someone might have a solution to your difficulty right this minute. You just need to find this person and ask the question.

I will be stronger on the other side

A problem once solved by you, can be hugely satisfying. What will be even more important than this gratification is how your inner strength will have grown as a result.

Remind yourself that your skill and wisdom will have enhanced greatly after your problem has been resolved.

Problems are needed for success

You want to be successful in life, right? Well you can’t have success without problems. It just doesn’t work that way.

Anyone who has ever become a success had to overcome heaps of problems along the way.

You too need problems, so that you can overcome them and reach your true potential.

My friends, it’s over to you:

• What other attitudes, perspectives and ways of thinking can help us to overcome problems we may face in our lives?
• Please share your valuable views, experiences and thoughts in the comments box below.
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18 Comments
  1. Hi Hiten,

    Wonderful post indeed 🙂

    Oh yes…who doesn’t face problems in life – they are so much part of our lives I think. And you are right – the right kind of positive attitude is what helps us overcome these problems in life.

    I liked all that you mentioned, especially the point about the problems being opportunities. They are just that, an opportunity for us to learn from them and get better in life. When we face problems or even our fears, we learn to overcome those fears or problems by facing them boldly. Similarly, self-affirmations like it’s a game as you mentioned, of life would be boring and dull without problems keeps us going in the positive direction. More so, if someone else has overcome them before, or even if you’ve faced similar problems before – it’s all the better because you know it’s only a passing phase till you come out strong on the other side.

    I think if we think of only possibilities and think ahead positively, any problem can be tackled, provided we are ready to change our attitude towards it.

    Thanks for sharing. Have a nice week ahead 🙂

    1. Hi Harleena,

      I’m really glad you liked the post, my friend!

      Indeed, you’re totally right. Having to face problems is a part of life and something we all have to do. It never ceases to amaze me how a shift in attitude can help us to overcome a difficultly we are facing.

      I’m glad you could resonate with the points and in particular, the one about looking at problems aw opportunities. When we do this, it’s always useful to notice how this change in attitude makes us feel, as we move from being stuck in the problem to a position where the problem becomes something positive and worth resolving.

      I can really appreciate what you wrote about recognising problems are something that will pass. This is another useful approach to deal with problems.

      Absolutely, as you quite rightly said, if we constantly think of possibilities in the first instance, any problem can dealt with.

      Thanks very much for commenting and for adding so much more to this post, Harleena!

      Hope you’ve had a good start to the week. 🙂

  2. Excellent advice, Hiten – I think taking a deep breath and calming down, to get things into perspective is always a good first step – when we’re hit with a problem, it can be easy to react impulsively if we’re not careful and make matters worse.

    I agree with all the tips you’ve given here – I find treating it as a problem-solving exercise, figuring out the bits you can practically deal with and tackling it as a challenge or, as you say, a kind of game, can be helpful. Also remembering that you and/or other people have survived this kind of thing before.

    When something’s really worrying you, it’s also helpful to imagine yourself years hence, maybe even on your deathbed, and think how insignificant it will seem then. We tend to blow things out of proportion when we’re in the middle of a crisis.

    Thanks for another inspiring post 🙂

    1. Hi Sue,

      I’m really glad you liked the advice in the post!

      I loved what you wrote about taking a deep breath. Indeed, we have such a natural way to help us deal with problems; namely our breathing. When we make conscious effort to breath properly, it has as you said, a calming effect on us.

      I can appreciate what you wrote about looking at the problem as a type of game. I think when we look at it from this perspective it enables us to create some distance from the problem and look at it with from a less stressful point of view.

      What you wrote about looking at the problem we’re facing from the position of a number of years in the future is wonderful. This is such a practical way to deal with problems.

      Many thanks for commenting, Sue and for sharing some great insights. Hope you’re having a good week! 🙂

  3. Hi Hiten,

    What great advice! We all have problems and it is how we look and deal with them that we can overcome. I like when you wrote it can be broken down to bits. Sometimes we perceive a problem and feel overwhelmed. So much so, that we cannot find the answer. Breaking it down bit by bit, even writing it on paper can work.

    I take out a pen and paper when there is a problem and do that kind of thing. Breaking it down and dealing with each little step to fix the problem makes is so much easier for me.

    To me, the best thing to keep in mind is that there is always someone out there to help. If you cannot find the “answer” or are emotionally upset, there is ALWAYS someone to go to.

    Thanks Hiten for these great ways to solve a problem.

    -Donna

    1. Hi Donna,

      I’m really glad you liked the advice in the post. I loved what you wrote about breaking down a problem and writing it down on paper. Thanks for sharing your positive experiences with this technique.

      In this sense, it is very similar to writing down a goal into small chunks which can help one manage the goal and see concrete results when parts of it are achieved.

      I totally agree with what you said about realising that there is always someone out to help. With this type of attitude, we allow ourselves to ask for help when we need it.

      Thanks for sharing some wonderful tips in your comment, Donna!

  4. Hi Hiten and thanks for these great tips. It took me a while to discover that asking for help was a really really good idea. Thinking we have to do it all for ourselves denies the connection we have to one another. Once I ‘got’ it, I discovered that people are incredibly generous and kind and oh so willing to help personally or point you in the right direction.

    1. Hi Elle,

      I’m glad you like the tips in the post! I can so resonate with what you wrote about asking others for help. It took me a long time too, to figure out that I needed to ask others for help. I think with people like us who are coaches and entrepreneurs, there can be a tendency to want to do everything ourselves. However, we can’t have all the skills needed to do everything. Hence, we can call upon others for assistance.

      As you discovered, people in general are very generous and willing to help.

      Many thanks for sharing your experiences Elle and have a wonderful weekend! 🙂

  5. Great points as always Hiten. I find that more often than not when something happens that I view as a “problem” it’s because the solutions are outside of my zone of comfort. I’m probably going to have to struggle a bit to figure this thing out and I will likely have to experience discomfort in the process – but I will be more knowledgeable and more confident for the experience on the other side.

    1. Hi Marty,

      I’m glad you liked the points in the post!

      I just loved what you shared regarding a “problem” being something that has a solution outside of our comfort zone. The more I think of it like this, the more I can see the truth in it. As you quite rightly said, in such instances we will likely have to experience discomfort and unfamiliarity. However, we will definitely come out stronger the other side.

      Thanks for sharing some wonderful advice Marty and have a wonderful weekend! 🙂

  6. Thanks for sharing Hiten – I found this post inspiring and encouraging.

    My 2 approaches when dealing with life’s challenges is realizing that yes, I will be stronger on the other side and also that I will be learning lessons from the experience. I ask myself what is this experience here to teach me? The answers are never immediate or transparent but there is always a life lesson to be learned from our circumstances.

    And like you say, problems do make us stronger. We acquire the experience to persist, the wisdom of not making the same mistake again in the future, and knowledge of resiliency – we can get through and survive the worst of times.

    1. Hi Vishnu,

      I’m so glad you found this post useful, my friend.

      Many thanks for sharing what you do when you encounter life challenges. I loved the question you ask yourself about what the experience would teach you. As you quite rightly said, there is always a life lesson to be learnt from what happens to us.

      I could really resonate with what you said about developing the ability to persist, developing wisdom from our mistakes and also resiliency to deal with future challenges. This is the exact cycle that we go through when dealing with a problem.

      Many thanks for sharing some wonderful advice, Vishnu and have a wonderful weekend! 🙂

  7. Hi Hiten,

    Excellent post,

    I agree, a problem is a problem only if that’s how you see it. As the English saying goes, if you got lemons, make lemonade, right?.

    I know for me, I couldn’t even be a coach if I hadn’t gone through the problems and challenges I went through in my life. In a way, we can say that challenges are there to teach us something and to come out stronger on the other side as you said.

    1. Hi Sylviane,

      I’m really glad you like the post!

      Thanks so much sharing the phrase about making lemonade when we have lemons! This is wonderful and really is a great phrase to help us take a problem we’re experiencing and look at in another way that will help us deal with it.

      I could really resonate with what you wrote about how your experiences enabled you to become a coach. I’m exactly the same. Indeed, as you quite rightly said, we learn from our experiences and we always come out stronger.

      Many thanks for adding so much more to this post, Sylviane and have wonderful weekend! 🙂

  8. I’ve implemented most of these beliefs into my life already but there are two in here that I’ve never though of before.

    1) Life would be boring – This is so smart. Life without challenges is total mediocrity. We would all become so complacent if we never had any struggles.

    2) Problems are needed for success – Without any challenges there can be no triumph. Beautiful idea.

    Thanks for sharing this man. I look forward to implementing these into my life.

    1. Hi Kevin,

      Many thanks for your comment and I’m glad you found the ‘life would be boring’ and ‘problems are needed for success’ attitudes useful.

      I can really appreciate what you said about how we would all become complacent if we never had any challenges. It’s like our growth would completely stunt as there wouldn’t be anything for us to do that would help us push ourselves and feel alive.

      Thanks very much for adding to the discussion and hope you’re having a good weekend!

  9. Hi Hiten,
    A very very relevant post for today’s time,which is stress filled and fast paced.I believe that two main qualities that help you get up and get going despite all the chaos around you are:-
    a)self encouragement
    b)Focus
    Encourage yourself particularly about the past successes you have achieved.No one in this world is a complete failure,and no one is a complete success either.There is mix of both for every one.Yet super successful people are those who succeed more often.That’s because they think differently about failure.They do not start permanently camping in failure.They seek encouragement from their previous successes.
    Focus is ‘follow one course until successful’ in the words of Robert Kiyosaki. So keep your focus intact. Don’t digress, and don’t distract yourself from your chosen path.Select your field,which should be your passion ideally,and then stick to it.Even if it is not your passion stick to your chosen path with dogged determination.Especially stay loyal to your action, which means that you never stop taking action come what may.
    Thanks for an engaging post
    Mona

    1. Hi Mona,

      Many thanks for your comment and I loved what you wrote about the importance of self-encouragement and focus when it comes to dealing with problems around us.

      What you wrote about encouraging ourselves about past successes is so important. We need to keep reminding ourselves of what we have achieved already and use these successes as motivators to help us deal with the challenge at hand. Absolutely, as you quite rightly said, super successful people think completely differently about failure. The great thing is that such mind-sets can be adopted by anyone.

      I totally agree with what you said about having focus and not getting distracted. It is usually those who have strong focus on what they want and persist with the journey that end up being high achievers.

      Many thanks for adding so much more value to this post, Mona!

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