How to Avoid Negativity

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Negatively comes in all different varieties. It can manifest from behaviours you might see in others, and the words they say. It could be actions you do yourself.

You see, there’s a key thing about negative vibes – they have a habit of travelling around.

If you’re feeling negative, then when you come into contact with other people, your negativity will pass onto them. Likewise, when people around you are harbouring ill will, it can potentially affect you and others. If you’re finding yourself always being negative or seeing negativity in others and want to figure out how to deal with this, the following tips will help you:

Don’t let other’s negativity spread to you

If you’re finding other people in your daily environments are bringing down your energy levels, then make a conscious decision to not allow them to change the way you’re feeling.

Sometimes this can be difficult, especially if you’re constantly in contact with a person who is negative. However, you can still choose not to allow that person’s emotions project onto you. Say a big “no” to allowing that individual’s vibes to enter into your personal space.

Engage in positive activities

Take positive action in your life. This could involve working on your confidence, helping other people improve their lives and abilities, reading inspirational books and news stories, and having cheerful and positive interactions with others.

Keep away from negativity

Where possible, stay away from negativity altogether. This could involve keeping away from bad crowds, or even refraining from particular types of music, or watching certain types of TV programs and movies.

Think of answers

You will always face problems in your life. A particular problem might be in your personal or professional setting. However, rather than dwelling on a problem for too long, which can lead to you feeling negative, focus instead on answers and solutions.

Change Your Attitude

If you are unhappy with your life, and the environments you’re in, change your attitude to the way you see the world. Focus on all the good things in your life. Even if you have one positive thing going for you in your life, then this is something. Look for the positives in others.

Expand the horizon of your thinking. If you find yourself constantly focusing on the negative aspects of your life, give yourself permission to at least consider what might be good beyond the problem that is currently taking up your attention.

Smile

You don’t just have to find something funny in order to smile. You can engineer good feelings inside you by just smiling, anyway! If you don’t smile often, then get into the habit of doing so. Give a smile when you see and greet people. Not only will you feel cheerful, but your positive vibes will transmit to others too.

Expect the good times and bad times

Although there is a lot you can do to ensure you have lot more positive experiences, there will always be difficult times. By expecting that with a happy experience, there might an unhappy one not too far away, you expect that challenges will occur, and you can become more dissociated from any negativity that might emerge through the unpleasant experience.

My friends, it’s over to you:

• What other ways/techniques can we use to avoid negativity in our lives?
• Please share your valuable thoughts, experiences and views in the comments box below.
• Please also share this post on your favourite social networks. Thank you.

37 Comments
  1. Again a great article on getting rid of that obstacle called negativity. By following the paths you have mentioned, I am sure one will be able to get rid of it. I like the idea of smiling. Even at times of hardship, one should not forget to smile. It does not cost anything and it can do wonders. It certainly will emit positive vibes.
    Thanks Hiten for this great article.

    1. Hi Shalu,

      I’m really glad you liked the post. As you quite rightly said, we should not forget to smile, even during hard times. By smiling during difficult times, we help ourselves to remain as positive as we can.

      Many thanks for adding so much more to this post, Shalu.

  2. Hi Hiten,

    I really enjoyed this post. Often negativity seems to hit you out of the blue. You’ll be having a fantastic day and then someone at work engages you in a conversation of negativity and suddenly your energy falls through the floor!

    I loved your point on “Engage in Positive Activities”…that is a powerful way of staying in a positive flow of energy. Like attracts like, so if we are always looking for positive activities we will draw more positive experience to us.

    Sometimes though, I find that I just have to walk away from negativity. Perhaps I’m getting a little older and wiser over the years, but when someone starts talking negatively I just end the conversation and walk away. Trying to change their negativity is a waste of time. I value positive energy. I know what it means to myself, my family, my friends and my work environment. I know I’m doing myself and all of them a disservice to engage in negativity because as you said…it spreads. The choice to stay away from negativity is a powerful one!

    Thank you so much Hiten. I don’t think any of us can hear this enough!! (and yes, I’m smiling as I write this!!) 🙂

    1. Hi Karen,

      I’m really glad you liked enjoyed the post, and you’re right, sometimes negativity can hit us when we’re not expecting it.

      I loved what you wrote about like attracting like. This is a very important principle to keep in mind, because as you said, by looking for positive activities, we will attract more positivity in our lives.

      I can really appreciate what you wrote about doing yourself and your family a disservice, by not being making an effort to be positive and to create positive environments. This shows that we have to take responsibility to create healthy environments, so that more positivity spreads.

      Many thanks for adding some great insights to this post and I’m smiling right back at you! 🙂

  3. Great thoughts, my friend! Your post made me think of two situations of consciously choosing to not to be run by negativity.

    The first involved a work meeting a few years ago. I walked into the conference room and the two people there were complaining about senior management–unconscious rhetoric that could come out of anyone’s mouth. I could have participated in that. But I chose instead to change the conversation by saying, “I’m so grateful to be gainfully employed when so many people couldn’t even find a job.” The other women’s faces lit up, the energy in the room lightened, and they joined me in expressing their own gratitude.

    The other happened when I was consulting with the same company. I was dreading a meeting because everything that could go wrong with a project did. So, on my long drive into work one morning, I used the time to say aloud all the things I appreciated and was grateful for; nothing was too small. By the time I was parked in the garage near work, I was in such a state of grace that there was no room for any dread. My day ended with the business partners involved in the project thanking me for going above and beyond in that problematic project.

    Thanks again for your tips, Hiten!

    1. Hi Alice,

      Many thanks for sharing some wonderful experiences around this area and for describing what you did.

      I loved what happened in the first situation. I think it’s great how you resisted complaining, and instead expressed your gratitude for having work. As you experienced, you’re positive state rubbed off on the other women. This is awesome!

      Alice, your second experience and what you did really made me smile. It’s wonderful how expressing gratitude aloud in your car helped you to turn around the meeting. Sometimes, if I know I have an important meeting at work, I will say positive statements out aloud with strong conviction while driving, to really get myself into a positive state. It works wonders!

      Many thanks Alice for leaving such a brilliant comment, full of excellent advice 🙂

  4. Thank you for your great blog post! I know it is sometimes a challenge to avoid negativity in the world. Some days it seems to be everywhere. Sometimes it’s something we see on the news, and sometimes it hits close to home. You provided a great list of suggestions to avoid getting pulled into the negativity. One of my favorites was to “expect the good times and bad times.” It’s normal and healthy to dip into the negativity as we navigate our journey through life. It’s just that we need to avoid getting stuck there. Another thing that I do is to focus on gratitude. Whenever I feel myself being pulled into negativity, I put my attention on naming what is going well and to practice gratitude for those things.

    1. Hi Susan,

      Welcome to the blog and many thanks for sharing your views on this area. You’re spot on. Negativity really is everywhere and we need to make efforts that we don’t allow it to take over us. I’m really glad you liked the list of ways to deal with negativity.

      The “expect the good times and bad times” is one that I like to use in particular. It helps me to not get too carried away when I experience success, and also to not feel down for too long when things don’t go as planned.

      Many thanks for sharing the additional way to avoid negativity; namely through focusing on gratitude. This is a wonderful approach, indeed.

      Thanks very much for adding so much more value to this post, Susan.

  5. Hello Hiten,
    Avoiding ‘negativity’ should be a major goal for all of us.You can certainly concentrate on positive outcomes/outlooks and the like … this helps. Unfortunately, You and I will never avoid negatively completely. From my perspective, the real goal should be to minimise the negativity( things and people) and have the coping skills to push it away when it does strike. Avoiding negative people is the ultimate challenge.
    Thanks for highlighting this major challenge.

    Be good to yourself and stay Positive!
    David

    1. Hi David

      I loved what you wrote about how the main goal should be to minimise negativity. As you quite rightly said, we will always experience some level of negativity. It is a human experience and each one of us is bound by pain-pleasure cycles.

      Indeed, avoiding negative people is a big challenge and can be difficult to do. It is here where work we do on ourselves to deal with negative people, really can come to the fore.

      Many thanks for sharing some great insights, David.

  6. Hey Hiten – yes, there are a lot of negative trigger points in our lives. Certain actions, circumstances, people and thoughts can allow negativity to arise. I try to stay conscious of those and pull myself away from situations that trigger negative thoughts. And try to start off the day positive by creating a gratefulness practice. Once you start noticing all the good things around you, it’s hard to focus on the negative ones. What we focus our minds will result in more of that in our life, I’ve noticed.

    So not only keeping away from negativity and negative people as you mention but thinking of answers helps keep me positive. Not just answers but solutions. And how to do something, not how not too. We can always come up with excuses, solutions take more creativity.

    Reading posts like this finally keep the positive juices flowing. Thanks Hiten!

    1. Hi Vishnu,

      I just loved what you wrote in your comment about staying conscious of negative situations and getting yourself out of them. I think the way you begin the day by being grateful is a wonderful practice.

      Indeed, as you quite rightly said, focusing our attention on the good around us means we have less time to focus on what is negative.

      I agree that being solution focused is a fantastic way to stay positive. Sometimes I think we can default far too easily to excuses, as they are the easy way out. As you said, solutions take more creativity.

      Many thanks for adding so much more to this post, my friend. 🙂

  7. Hiten – I try to avoid negativity as much as possible too, but sadly it’s not always possible. When I do run into it, one thing that can help me a lot is to just take a deep breath and think a thought that is the opposite of whatever negativity I’m hanging onto. I try to tell myself what I think a good friend would say. Then I usually call a good friend!

    But sometimes the things that feel negative are actually things we do have to take a look at in our lives. I think discerning when there’s really something we have to look at and do differently, and when we’re just being around the negative nancies and it’s gotten us down!

    1. Hi Jessica,

      It’s great to see you here and many thanks for sharing your approaches to avoid negativity. The way you take a deep breath and think of what is opposite to the negativity you’re experiencing is a wonderful technique. I also the like the way you consider, what a good friend would tell you. I’ve never heard of this approach and it sounds great.

      Ah, you’re so right about using negativity within us, as a hint that there is something we need to do to improve to lives. In this instance, we can try and find the source of our unhappiness and engage in positive activities that will help to improve our position.

      Many thanks for adding so much more value to this post, Jessica.

  8. Hi Hiten,

    Sorry for being late this time – just been so overwhelmed with work, though I’m glad I’m here now 🙂

    Lovely topic indeed, just as everyone mentioned because negativity is all around us, or shall we say it’s part of us because we are surrounded by it, either in the form or people or things, or even reminders and thoughts I’d add.

    There is just one way you can really fight the negativity and try to avoid it, which is by thinking positive. You need to break your negative thought process and change it or take it to the positive direction. Yes, it’s not always easy to fight your thoughts, but it’s not tough either if you are determined to make a good shift. Loved your tips on how we can avoid negativity, and yes, smiling helps a great deal, provided you really smile and it’s not a put on smile 😉

    Not to mention, it just takes a split of a second to change your attitude and way of thinking from a negative one to a positive one, so we can say it is ALL in the mind, isn’t it?

    Thanks for sharing. Have a nice week ahead 🙂

    1. Hi Harleena,

      There’s no need to be sorry! It’s always great to see you here, whenever you can make it! 🙂

      I’m so glad you enjoyed the topic of the post, my friend. Indeed, as you said, negativity is always around us and within us, too. I think it could be lifelong journey to remove the negativity that we as humans can experience within us!

      I loved what you said about the ultimate remedy for negativity being thinking positive. This is so true, as is what you wrote about breaking negative thought patterns. Ultimately, when we experience negativity it is because we create habits to react to the outside world, or are reacting to our inner words of thoughts. Hence, you’re correct. It is all in the mind.

      Many thanks for adding some wonderful insights to this post, Harleena! Hope you’re having a good week. 🙂

  9. Hi Hiten,

    Useful points, I think whenever we’re surrounded by problems.. we usually find that negativity is chasing us. Nothing good happens, so its time to focus on good things that happens before so that you could remain positive about your life.

    1. Hi Bharat,

      Welcome to the blog! I’m really glad you found the points useful.

      You’re so right. It’s always a good thing to focus on the good experiences we’ve had in our lives, to help us stay positive.

      Many thanks for commenting, Bharat!

  10. Great points, Hiten, on how to keep negativity away, which is so important in work and life. Two additions. First, keep a growth mindset, meaning always keep learning. Learning puts your mind and actions on a positive path. Second, exercise – run, play tennis, lift weights, do yoga…. whatever works for you, exercise. It helps your mind and body. Thank you! Jon

    1. Hi Jon,

      Many thanks for adding some great additional ways we can use to avoid negativity.

      What you wrote about learning and a growth mindset is so true. As I think about your point, whenever I’m learning, I’m on a positive path.

      Indeed, exercise is so important, too. Doing exercise that reaonates with our individual personalities, really does help us become refreshed and keep negativity at bay.

      Many thanks for adding so much more to this post, Jon.

  11. One thing I would add to the list and that I am always working on is not being judgmental of others. I wrote a post recently about what I see as the key problems with being judgmental. It makes you focus on what you find wrong with others, which definitely spreads negativity.
    This is the first time I have read your blog, and I really appreciate this reminder of how destructive negativity can be in our lives.

    1. Hi CJ,

      It’s great to see you at the blog and many thanks for adding the point about not being judgemental.

      You’re so right. Being judgemental means we harbour negative thoughts and emotions and these project onto others.

      Thanks for commenting, CJ.

  12. Great thoughts Hiten! It’s a fact that we become like the people we associate with on a regular basis, either for the good or bad. Our attitude and actions will reflect the person who has the majority of influence over the entire group. It’s why it’s essential that we pick and carefully chose who we spend time with or associate with.

    1. Hi Dan,

      I’m glad you liked the post, my friend!

      I can really resonate with what you wrote about how we become like those who we spend time with. Indeed, it’s extremely important that we’re choosy about who we hang around with. A wrong crowd can send us 10 steps back. A good, positive crowd on the hand can be a great source of friendship, inspiration and motivation.

      Many thanks for sharing your views of this area, Dan!

      1. It’s amazing how that works, isn’t it?:) Keep writing great content my friend.

        1. Hi Dan,

          I agree, it is amazing how this works! It really is.

          Thanks for your continued support, my friend.

  13. Great points, Hiten! I like the point on “don’t let others’ negativity spread to you”. As an empath, I find it easy to put myself in the shoes of another and feel. However, I need to learn about being careful in not taking on negativity that does not “belong” to me. I practice creating energy shields for protection and I find that it works!

    1. Hi Evelyn,

      I’m really glad you liked the points in the post and in particular, the one about not letting other people’s negativity spread to us. I loved the energy shields approach you use to protect yourself from negativity spread by others. This sounds like an extremely powerful technique.

      Indeed, as you quite rightly pointed out, other people’s negativity is their emoting and speaking. It doesn’t belong to us.

      Many thanks for adding so much more value to this post, Evelyn.

  14. Hi Hiten,

    These are fantastic tips – I think you’ve just about got it all covered here. The hardest thing, speaking from personal experience, is dealing with other people’s negativity, particularly if you’re in a situation where you can’t, practically, isolate yourself from someone who’s depressed, anxious, angry or whatever – negative feelings are definitely ‘catching’ and you have to be very strong in recognising that your own emotional state isn’t dependent on the other person’s feelings or behaviour. There’s often a temptation to want to ‘change’ the other person, and I think the challenge is to remember that you can only change yourself. I love your tip about smiling – it’s amazing what a difference that can make 🙂

    1. Hi Sue,

      I’m really glad you liked the tips!

      Many thanks for sharing your experiences of this area. I agree, dealing with other people’s negativity can be very challenging. We can make plenty of effort to ensure we don’t let such people get to us. However, they might be so negative; we can still get sucked into their unhelpful vibes. Indeed, in order to counter this, we need to keep on working on ourselves, and as you said, change ourselves.

      Absolutely, smiling really can make a difference in our states and quite quickly, too.

      Many thanks for commenting, Sue and have a great weekend! 🙂

  15. Hey Hiten. Removing negative people from our lives – tough to do, but great once done!

    There is a girl in the office I work in who is ALWAYS negative about the weather. She’s miserable when it’s cold. She’s miserable when it’s warm. She’s miserable when it rains. She’s miserable when the sun is out……you get the picture.

    At first I tired to explain my point of view – which is basically that you can’t control the weather, so why allow it to rule your emotions?

    When this didn’t work, it *finally* dawned on me that perhaps I can change my reaction to her. I can’t stop seeing her, since she sits close to me and we inevitably talk. So now when she complains about the weather, rather than feeling crappy, I just say ‘wow, the weather really impacts you, doesn’t it?’ And that’s where the conversation ends.

    Moral of the story – negativity begins and ends with you. Which is what you wrote in your post. So we agree 🙂

    – Razwana

    1. Hi Razwana,

      Indeed, you’re right about it being very difficult to remove negative people from our lives, completely. There are some negative people who we will always come into contact with.

      I loved the example you shared of the girl you work with. The change in approach you used is a brilliant one and just shows what difference in response we can get from others, when we change our reactions and the way we communicate.

      Thanks very much for adding some great insights to this post, Razwana and have a great weekend. 🙂

  16. HI Hiten,
    You have shared nice article. This will surely help people to come out from negativity. As we all know human thinks near about 30 thoughts in a minute. Some are positive remaining are negative So set your mind to always pick the positive thoughts. this will help to over come negativity. Do meditation, This will also relax our mind. If you find negative thinking people don’t over come their thinking upon you. Prepare your thoughts as negative people become positive when they will in your touch.

    1. Hi Gautam,

      I’m really glad you enjoyed the article, my friend.

      Many thanks for sharing the fact about how we can have 30 thoughts a minute. I wasn’t aware of this. I loved the advice you shared about meditating. Meditation is a wonderful way to overcome negativity in our minds and can also be helpful in allowing us to block out negativity from others.

      Indeed, you’re right. We need to prepare ourselves with positive thoughts and be ready for negativity we may find in our surroundings.

      Thanks very much for adding more value to this post, Gautam.

  17. Hiten,

    I LOVE the positivity of this message. Most people are their own worst critics. I certainly know “I” am often my own worst critic, at least.

    It is so easy to be negative and destroy our own chances at success, happiness and achieving our goals. I wish more people embraced your positive message and shucked the chains of negativity!

    SJ

    1. Hi SJ,

      I’m so glad you liked the post, my friend!

      Indeed, you’re right. Our worst critics are usually ourselves. When I find myself being hard on myself, I remind myself that there is enough negativity around the world. Hence, it makes no sense to create more misery by beating myself up.

      Many thanks for commenting, and have a great weekend!

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