“You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You are able to say to yourself, ‘I have lived through this horror. I can take the next thing that comes along.’ You must do the thing you think you cannot do.”

~ Eleanor Roosevelt

Confidence isn’t something elusive that is only available to those who you perceive around you as having it. You too can build confidence. Read the following tips to find out how:

Do you what you fear

When you continue to do the same activities in your personal and professional life that you’ve been doing for a long time, you’re not building your confidence.

You improve your self-confidence when you do an activity you’ve never done before and the thought of it makes you a little nervous. Such activities (e.g. public speaking) are the exact types that will help you to boost your confidence.

Continue doing what you fear

It’s highly likely you’re going to be a little unsure of how an activity that makes you uncomfortable will work out. However, your confidence will grow with time and doing the activity again and again.

Therefore, you need to continue doing what you find challenging until you feel your confidence beginning to increase.

Trust me. You will know the feeling when you experience it in your body.

Change your thoughts

You can certainly increase your confidence by changing what you think about yourself. An easy way to do this is to actually see yourself being successful at an activity or being a certain way in your mind.

By creatively imagining yourself being successfully and saying “yes” to living the life you want, you command your mind to go out and take the necessary action.

Read self-help books

By reading self-confidence books, you give yourself tools to guide you in improving yourself.

The right types of books can provide you with a source of motivation and focused confidence building exercises, which you can practice in your time.

The practice element of reading is critical. Reading without action is just intellectual stimulation. However, by putting into practice what you read, you initiate your personal growth.

Write down how your life will improve

By building your confidence, how will your life improve? What areas of your life will improve? How will your relationships improve? Write these down so that it is crystal clear how being more confident will help you.

Write down the consequences of not building self-confidence

Also, write down the consequences of you not working on your self-confidence. How will your life stay the way it has been? Will your life become worse? Write down your answers and use these as motivators to initiate the action you need to take.

The alternative is to face the consequences of not taking action, and I’m sure you don’t want to go there.

Model confidence

I’m a personal fan of modelling success. I’ve talked about it on a number of occasions and as it’s important, I will mention it again.

Other people have already developed their confidence in areas, which you want to improve in. I’m not talking about famous people either. I’m talking about your friends, family members and colleagues; namely those people you see in your everyday life.

Observe them, their actions, and their words in certain situations. Take this even further and ask them what they are thinking and believing when they do tasks.

Once you have this information, imagine you’re in the shoes of that person and do what it is you know will build your confidence.

My friends, it’s over to you:

• What other ways, tools and techniques can we use to boost our confidence?
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