It makes no sense

You find yourself with an unfamiliar group of people. You might have to speak.  You become anxious. You start to sweat and then you avoid talking altogether.

The anxiousness has a key characteristic. It arises and then it passes away. Sometimes it might last for a longer period. But it still goes away.

Yet, you still identify so much with the anxiety. You become the anxiety.

But it still goes away.

It doesn’t make sense to identify with something that doesn’t last.

  1. Let me tell you my experience:
    Recently, I had outbound training on learning. During intro of that training I stammered for “few” words. Later during training (Army Type Physical Training) I shouted like no one WITHOUT any stammering; meaning I was not anxious or better to say conscious. Again, during meet-ups I stammered.. reason I was anxious and more conscious. However, during im-formal meets I was quite good with the mates..
    Need to control the anxiousness…

  2. Rockford, thanks for sharing your experience. There is no doubt that being conscious of our speaking can put us under pressure and hence increase our stammering, especially when ‘trying’ to speak fluently.

    A good way dealing with the anxiety is just observing it for what it is and knowing that it will pass.

    As people who stammer, I think often we cause all kinds of problems for ourselves by literally ‘becoming’ the unhelpful emotions we are experiencing. There is no need to do this.

    Hope the training is going well!

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