Job Interview Confidence

“Believe in yourself and all that you are. Know that there is something inside you that is greater than any obstacle.”

~ Christian D. Larson

Today I’m delighted to do the official blog launch of my eBook entitled Job Interview Confidence: Replacing Anxiety with Self-Belief.

Let’s face it. Job interviews are important. They are a part of life, and something most of us will experience at least once in our lives and many will experience a number of times.

However, they are also one of those life experiences, which can be one of the most anxious.

Why do job interviews create so much anxiety?

Below are some of the reasons why you can get into a real unhelpful state about job interviews:

1. They are a situation where your past working history can potentially get scrutinised, and you fear this.

2. You might stammer and worry you’re going to struggle to speak during the interview.

3. You’re asked questions about yourself, and the prospect of this makes you anxious. On that note, isn’t it strange how when it comes to talking about ourselves, an area where we know more than anyone else, we suddenly become so self-conscious?

4. You may be concerned you don’t know what questions the interviewers will ask you.

5. Similar to the point above, you’re not sure whether your answers will be ones, which the interviewers believes to be good.

6. You get concerned that if you don’t get the job you are being interviewed for, you won’t get another.

7. You might not have all skills required for the job, and you think the interviewers will take this as signs of weaknesses.

The falseness of our thoughts and beliefs about job interviews

There is some good news about all these scary thoughts and beliefs you may have about job interviews.

Yes, you did read right. I said good news.

The good news is that they are false. Yes, I said it. They are all wrong. The only truth in them, is that you have allowed them to be true, until now…

Let’s explore this further with the seven points above and look at each one with an alternative perspective. There is one condition though. You have to give yourself permission to do so. Else it isn’t going to work.

Why we do not have to get anxious about job interviews

1. Rather than seeing a job interview as a situation where your past working history is examined, it can instead be an opportunity for you to learn to present your background in the best possible light.

2. Yes, you might stammer during the interview. However, it is most likely the interviewers will fumble on their words a little, too.

3. When you’re in relaxed environment, people ask you questions about yourself and you answer fine. Is an interview situation really all that different? You’re probably going to say “of course it is”. However, I will challenge this point. Remember, it is only different, if you allow it to be.

4. Sure, you can’t be sure what the interviewer is going to ask you. However, how different is this to your interviewers not knowing what you’re going to ask them at the end of the interview, when it’s your turn to ask some posers?

5. About your answers not being good enough, is it really worth worrying so much about an answer which one person in the world might think is the best and another might believe is the craziest they’ve ever heard? Focus on being the best you can, and not on how you’re not good enough. ‘Not being good enough’ is probably the biggest lie a person can tell themselves.

6. If you don’t get a job interview, then have no fear. Another 10 interviews are around the corner. And yes, I’m happy to say this, even in these difficult economic times and periods of austerity. Opportunity is always there for the one who is willing to open their eyes to see it.

7. Having every skill required in the job description doesn’t guarantee a person will get a job. It’s the person who performs the best on the day and matches what the employer is looking for, who gets the job.

My New eBook

My new eBook is the first in an NLP series for people who stammer, to deal with those key situations in life, where stammering can be a problem. The first one is all about dealing with the anxiety of job interviews and replacing negative beliefs about your ability to take them, with empowering ones.

Hey, judging by the reviews I’ve been getting so far, you don’t need to be a person who stammers to benefit from the eBook.

Anyone who is finding job interviews a challenge can benefit.

Get your copy from the Kindle Store

People across the world can get download their copies here at Amazon.comPeople in India can grab a copy from the New Kindle Store India, and pay in Rupees.

If you’re in the UK you can get it from Amazon.co.uk.

Also, you don’t need to have a Kindle to read the eBook. There are a number of free apps you can use to view it.

I hope those of you who purchase the book truly find it helpful and I wish you all the best with your job interviews.

Please review it

If you purchase the eBook and you like it, please leave a review at Amazon. And I’m waiting for you to hold me to the Bonus Extra at the end of the eBook!

Spread the word

If you’ve enjoyed it, please tell your family, friends and colleagues.

Your Turn

  • How do you deal with the anxiety of job interviews?
  • In what ways do you give yourself a boost of confidence before you go into a job interview?
  • Please share your valuable views and experiences in the comments box below.
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37 Comments
  1. What a great post, Hiten. I haven’t been for an interview in years. I don’t think I’d be going for one soon either. However, I definitely could see the worth in this post. Confidence is the one thing that a person needs to have. I remember winging it at job interviews years ago. I had the confidence to pull it off and make jokes, and usually got the jobs I went for.

    1. Hi Anne,

      It’s so nice to see you here, my friend! 🙂

      I’m so glad you liked this post and I appreciate your words, especially as they come from a dedicated confidence coach, such as yourself.

      Indeed, confidence is the one key trait that can help improve one’s life tremendously, and this includes in the area of job interviews. As you explained through your experiences, you were able to be spontaneous and humorous during job interviews because you had confidence. Having confidence also helps to balance the dynamics in a job interview situation.

      Thanks a lot for commenting and sharing your views and experiences in this area.

  2. Nice work Hiten,
    Job interviews can be a little unnerving. When you have confidence, it’a fair bit easier. Your book should be a helpful guide to those who need a ‘confidence boost’.
    be good to yourself
    David

    1. Hi David,

      Many thanks mate! 🙂

      Indeed, job interviews are one of the most unnerving of setups we can find ourselves in. As you say building confidence in ourselves, and with good preparation holds us in good stead for when we enter the interview.

      Many thanks for reviewing the book, David. It was great to have your expert feedback.

      Cheers,

      Hiten

  3. Valuable information here today, Hitten. A first impression is a lasting impression and ones ability to WOW an interviewer is vital. A mind possessed with a consciousness of success is uninhibited, eager and effi cient. Nothing is as powerful as a mind that believes in its capacity to win. A person with such a mind achieves things that seem absolutely impossible to the woeful onlooker.

    1. Hi Rob,

      I’m really glad you found the post useful. You’ve hit the nail on the head, my friend. As you say, the first impression we make is the one that will last in the mind of the interviewer. There are many things we can do to ensure we go in with a bang, so to speak. Being relaxed as possible will help. And being confident will help one relax during the interview.

      I loved what you said, about there being nothing like a mind that believes in itself to win. This was very powerful. Indeed, if one is able to reach a position where this is truly a belief for them, then that person is unstoppable. Perseverance and the ability to keep rejecting the “no’s” we’ve heard in our lives, as you teach, will help. Limiting beliefs will soon turn into powerful ones that can move us forward.

      And we know that to reach this position, is possible for each us.

      Thank you so much for commenting and adding your empowering insights to this post.

  4. I haven’t had a job interview for many years! This will be really helpful, should it come up in the future. Thanks, Hiten!

  5. I bet your eBook is great Hiten.

    I’m so glad my interviewing days are behind me. I do know that even if I was very confident about myself I always got nervous. I think we all want to make that great first impression but not knowing what the other person is thinking really got to me. That was way back before I just learned to do the best I can and let it go.

    I have no doubt that your eBook will be extremely helpful for anyone still in this situation because there are so many people searching for jobs you definitely want to stand out above all the rest.

    By the way, love the new look of your blog. Nice.

    ~Adrienne

    1. Hi Adrienne,

      Thank you so much for your kind words about my eBook! I really appreciate it.

      I think with job interviews, it’s a little like public speaking. No matter how good we get at public speaking, we’ll be a little nervous before getting up and speaking. The same is with job interviews. A few nerves help us rise up to the occasion and be a little spontaneous, which is great.

      Absolutely, ultimately all we can do is be the best we can, and learn from each job interview experience, and not get disheartened by certain experiences that happen during them.

      Thanks also for your feedback on the blog. I use the Persuasion theme by Mysitemyway.com, which is very professional looking, yet flexible and easy to change, whenever one wants to.

      Thanks a lot for commenting and for showing your support, Adrienne! 🙂

  6. Hi Hiten,

    Great post and good luck with the ebook. I am sure with your knowledge it is going to be a great hit.

    I like number 6. There is always a new opportunity around the next corner if we look for it. For myself when I lost my job that is when i got into blogging. NO MORE INTERVIEWS, but what I use to do if I got up tight in an interview is just take a few deep breaths and be myself, knowing that if there was a reason I didn’t get hired there was something better waiting for me.

    Thank you for sharing and God;s blessings,
    Debbie

    1. Hi Debbie,

      I’m so happy you enjoyed the post, and thank you for kind wishes regarding the eBook. I much appreciate your support, as always.

      Indeed, I’m the same as you. I love number 6 too! I think this is such an important attitude that transcends even the job interview context. There are always more opportunities. When one sees the abundance in life, setbacks cease being so. They become opportunities for us to remind ourselves as you used to with job interviews, that there is always something better that awaits us.

      Thanks a lot for sharing your experiences, Debbie. Your comment was brilliant.
      God bless you too.

  7. Good Luck with the book launch Hiten, it’s material that so many people need. I will share it with anyone I know who may need it.

    1. Hi Ciara,

      Thank you so much for wishing me good luck! I really appreciate it.

      Many thanks for sharing it with anyone you feel might find it helpful. It’s great to see you here, and thanks for commenting! 🙂

  8. Hiten — congratulations on the launch of this book! Given the state of the economy over here in the U.S., there are many people looking for jobs who could benefit from it. Especially like your observation that, yes, we might stammer or otherwise make some mistakes, and that’s ok. Read once that violinist Yo-Yo Ma always looks forward to the first mistake he makes during a performance because after that he can stop trying to be perfect and just enjoy himself.

    1. Hi Stephen,

      Many thanks for the words of congratulations! 

      Some of the feedback I’ve got from reviewers is that the book can be of use to any person, who is going through job interviews and wants to deal with the anxiety of it. There is no such thing as completely ‘fluent’, and hence worrying about how we’re going to speak in such situations, is a waste of mental energy.

      I loved the point you made about the violinist Yo-Yo Ma. What an amazing and powerful attitude to live by. By doing this, he is celebrating his fallibility. Thank you very much for sharing, my friend!

      Have a great weekend.

  9. excellent tips hiten
    job interviews are turning points in our lives
    if we managed to pass through them our lives will change
    thank you

    1. Hi Farouk,

      I’m really glad you liked the tips, my friend! You are so right. Job interviews can be those experiences that can literally change the direction of our lives.

      I appreciate you commenting and showing your support here. Thank you.

  10. Congratulations on the blog launch of your book Job Interview Confidence.

  11. Hi Hiten

    I’m sure that your new book is going to go down a storm. NLP Techniques are great for use in job interviews.

    One of my students told me the other day that she had been for an interview recently for a job that she did not expect to get as she had no experience in that particular industry.

    She had no fear and no expectations, she just applied the NLP Rapport techniques, she matched the interviewers breathing, matched his posture and his predicates etc. They got in rapport and she felt that the interview went really well.

    Anyway the next day she got a phone call offering her the job.

    Powerful stuff indeed!

    1. Hi Anthony,

      Many thanks for your words about my book. I really appreciate that.

      I loved the story about your student using NLP rapport techniques during her interview. What a perfect setting to put such powerful tools into action. How wonderful that she got offered the job.

      As you said by matching breathing, posture and predicates, she was able to create huge trust. That’s what I love about NLP. It’s such a fantastic tool set and the way one can develop their communication skills through the techniques, is amazing.

      It’s great to see you here, Anthony. Thank you so much for commenting. 🙂

  12. Dearest Hiten,

    Congratulations! I am sure this is going to be a very useful book for lots of people.

    One of the reasons I know for sure, why people get nervous in an interview is – because they want the job desperately. That anxiety and desperation messes up the mind. I remember when I first began job hunting – decades ago – my cousin advised me to remember that “this is not the only job in the world”. Yet, there are jobs we are keen on – and want badly. And rather than put our energy into performing well, we end up being anxious. Then there are some interviewers who get a kick out of making the candidate feel miserable.

    Luckily for me, after three interviews of not being selected, my first job came to me because someone saw me and liked me and asked for a bio. 🙂 And thereafter, every job was an invitation.

    But I’ve been at the other side of the table for several years and know how the interviewee feels. I would go out of my way to make them feel good about themselves.

    Thank you for a great read!

    Love, Vidya

    1. Dear Vidya,

      Thank you so much, for your kind words of congratulations! And thank you also for helping me promote the book, this weekend! 🙂 Thanks also for downloading the book!

      I really appreciate you sharing your experiences with job interviews, and thank you for doing this. I agree the desperation aspect is a common one. I think in difficult economic times, the need to get a job increases tremendously.

      I liked the way you wrote “And rather than put our energy into performing well, we end up being anxious”. There is a very important shift in attitude in your words, which we can use a great resource; namely to focus on performing well and doing the best we can. If we can layer curiosity and a slight playfulness to this, then this can be a powerful mix.

      I can understand what you say about being selected by someone who liked you. There is a tremendous subjective aspect to job interviews, and the interviewers are also looking for people who will fit into their organisation and who they can also work with easily. It’s important to remember this, as it definitely suggests there is a job out there somewhere for everyone.

      I’m the same as you. I can see myself being a very compassionate interviewer!

      I’m really glad you liked the post, and many thanks for commenting! 🙂

  13. Great post and I wish you great success! Now that I’m retired, I don’t plan on any more job interviews! However, as I look back, two interviews stand out for me. In the first one, I wanted the job so much I was having to keep myself from begging! I went through most of the interview trying to say exactly the right thing. I knew that there would be lots of competition for the job and that I was one among many many very qualified people. So towards the end of the interview, I just took a deep breath and made a comment that was just something about me and meant to be funny. When the interviewer chuckled and asked me back for a second interview, I knew that was what turned the tide. I got the job.

    In the second interview, I wasn’t really that invested in the job, so I was very relaxed. I got the job and it turned out to be the job I kept for the last twenty years of my career! I loved it!

    So to me, in both cases, the interview success seemed to be based on being myself. Just what you advise!

    1. Hi Galen,

      Thank you so much for your kind wishes and for sharing your experiences with job interviews.

      I think its great how you told the joke about yourself. This must have helped so much to break the ice and contributed to relaxing the mood.

      I can also appreciate what you wrote about your second interview. There is a definite connection between getting a job where we are not really attached to the outcome of the interview. Non-attachment to the outcome of interviews while giving our best is a perfect combination.

      Thank you so much for commenting, Galen. It’s great to see you here.

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  15. Nice Tips Dear,
    really job interviews are turning points in our lives,
    Thanks for sharing

  16. I tell my trainees to consider job interview just as another conversation that you have with a friend.

    What are your thoughts on this?

    This has worked well for me and for my training participants as well..

    1. Hi Rafi,

      I love the approach you use with your trainees. I think adopting the mind set of having ‘just another conversation’ as you would with a friend is excellent.

      Thank you very much for sharing this great tip with us all.

  17. Great post, a lot of capable youngsters failed in getting jobs due to their nervousness in interviews even it happen with me and i lost a great job. I am sure your book build confidence of job interviewers.

    1. Hi Rupali,

      I’m so glad you liked the post!

      Job interviews are one of the major life situations we can find ourselves in. There are many things we can do to increase our confidence before we go to interviews. These include proper preparation, researching the organisation, rehearsal of answers and ensuring we have got our thoughts and beliefs around job interviews right, to support our success.

      Thanks so much for commenting! 🙂

  18. Highly descriptive post, I enjoyed that bit.
    Will there be a part 2?

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  20. Hi Hiten!

    I agree with your ideas, another. We need to be still and make controlled calculated movements. We don’t hold a pen or paper and fidget constantly. Let’s be careful not to tap our hands or feet either. It’s okay to be animated and talk with your hands. It’s probably even a good thing in most interviews to show enthusiasm.

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