Making Mistakes in Life is Really Good

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Do you currently believe you can never make mistakes in life, or get anything wrong? Maybe you don’t. However, if you do, the points in this post will be relevant to you. Below are some reasons why mistakes are actually good for you:

You’re still entitled to make mistakes

Children make mistakes all the time. Do you ever tell kids off for making mistakes? Of course you don’t. So, why are you so hard on yourself when you make mistakes? Just because you’re an adult, it doesn’t mean you can’t get anything wrong. In fact, as an adult it is difficult to make progress in any aspect of life, unless you’re prepared to make mistakes. Remember, as an adult, you’re still allowed to make mistakes.

Mistakes allow you to learn

Doing something you’ve never done before and not getting the result you wanted doesn’t mean you’ve failed. It’s an opportunity to analyse what you did in the process, and consider what worked well in particular and what didn’t. In the future, you can do more of what worked and do something else to replace that which didn’t.

Feel good factor from doing

Rather than holding back on doing what you want out of fear of not doing it well, or getting it wrong, it’s better to give it go. By trying, you will automatically feel good and your confidence and self-esteem will rise.

Increase your strength of character

Doing something well and telling the world about it is easy. After all, you might get praise and people telling you how did a great job. However, admitting your mistakes isn’t very easy, because now you have to admit that what you did, didn’t work out. It takes strength of character to do so, and people respect those who are man or woman enough to admit their mistakes.

Increase your resilience

If you’re currently finding it hard to make mistakes, it will take some time for you to get used to. However, as you begin to truly understand and experience that mistakes will always happen, you will over time, be able to shrug off mistakes more quickly, until you reach a point, where you won’t flinch when you get something wrong. You will have developed the resilience to bounce back and continue with the journey.

Increase your ability to forgive

When you make mistakes and are hard on yourself, you experience the suffering it causes inside you. You tell yourself harsh words about your mistakes. Instead, when you give yourself permission to make mistakes, you appreciate that humans are fallible in nature. We get things wrong all the time. You learn to forgive yourself. Through this, you also learn not to judge other people when they don’t get things right.

Increase your ability to relate better

Through forgiving yourself for making mistakes and showing compassion when others do, you will create a more healthy environment when you interact with people in your personal and professional life. You will not be afraid to make mistakes in front of others. Likewise, others will feel the same about making mistakes when they’re around you. This helps to create more trust.

My friends, it’s over to you:

• What are your thoughts on making mistakes? Do you we need to make mistakes, or do we need to avoid them?
• What else do we learn when we make mistakes?
• Please share your valuable views, thoughts and opinions in the comments box below.
• Please also share this post on your favourite social networks. Thank you.

39 Comments
  1. Dr Hiten,
    “Anyone who has never made a mistake has never tried anything new.”-Albert Einstein
    I can vividly remember when I first started blogging, I used to have an IT expert that always fix my blog for any bug. There was a night I accidentally change a code, my blog shuts down immediately. I called the IT guy in the middle of the night. He told me he was sleeping. I had to research on the web all night on how to fix the problem.Guess what? I have since been fixing any problem on my blog, I now build websites/blogs for people. So anything is possible, only from making mistakes.

    1. Hi Seun,

      Ah, what a wonderful story you shared about your blog! Thanks so much for sharing it.

      I can imagine what it must have been like when your blog shut down. The way you found your own solution was very inspiring. I can imagine you must have had to try out multiple different ways and changes in code to fix it.

      What happened because of this experience is brilliant, as you’ve gone on to actually build websites and blogs yourself! This is amazing stuff, Seun. 🙂

      Thanks very much for sharing Albert Einstein’s great quote. I really appreciate you leaving your comment and have a fantastic week.

  2. As humans, we will make mistakes. But we should not keep doing those mistakes again and again. We should attempt to learn from it and rectify the mistakes. It certainly makes you more resilient and makes it easier to face eventualities as well.

    1. Hi Shalu,

      I’m so glad you wrote in your comment about ensuring we don’t continue to make mistakes again and again. Indeed, it is very important we learn from our mistakes. Otherwise there is the risk of continuing to do things in ways, which really will not work.

      Thanks very much for adding to the discussion here, Shalu. Hope you’re having a good day!

  3. Hi Hiten,

    Lovely post indeed 🙂

    You are so right – making mistakes IS good, and just like kids make mistakes and we allow them to because we think it teaches them something in return, the same is in our case. Each mistakes always teaches us a lesson in return.

    I know I never stop saying this, because I so strongly believe in it – failures and mistakes are what lead us to success – they are our stepping stones to achieve our goals. So, we should never fear making mistakes, instead, treat them more like learning opportunities.

    I loved all that you shared – so true. I’d also like to add that any mistake we make and when we learn about how to do that the right way – that gets fixed in our minds. It’s like an instant lesson we learn, which we never forget. So what bigger teacher can there be than the mistakes we make. 🙂

    Mistakes can be many – related to blogging, raising our kids, making friends, house work we do, or just about anything, and in each sphere we get better. I wonder how people manage without making mistakes, or perhaps they are the perfectionist and I really don’t think that’s normal – they face other kind of problems later in life.

    Thanks for sharing this with us. Have a nice week ahead 🙂

    BTW – I’ve started closing my eyes when I visit your blog…you know why? Because each time there’s a new eBook looking me right in the face and asking me when I am going to get started 🙁 Gosh! How do you manage to write them up so fast!

    1. Hi Harleena,

      I’m really glad you enjoyed the post and many thanks for your wonderful comment!

      Indeed, the point you made about failures and mistakes leading to success, really is true. I think all of us can really help ourselves by internalising such a belief and living it out. Indeed, as you said, we shouldn’t fear making mistakes just for the very reason that are needed, in the first place!

      Thanks a lot for sharing your point about how when we learn the lesson from our mistake, doing so leaves an imprint of our minds. Some serious rewiring goes in our brains, for the better and it’s like how you said, in that we don’t then forget.

      I can relate to the point you made about being a perfectionist. I used to be one, until I learnt that I wasn’t really trying to perfect at all. What I was doing was fearing I would never be good enough.

      Harleena, it would be great to see some eBooks by you, if you could fit it into your schedule. You have so much wonderful advice you could share through this medium. Regarding your question about how I write so fast, what helps is that my titles really are not that long. Each one is typically between 5000-10,000 words and I have a couple of pieces which are shorter than 5000 words. I also ensure I block out some time everyday just for book writing projects, so I’m constantly working on them.

      Thanks so much for leaving your comment. Hope you’re having a good day and have a good rest of the week. 🙂

    2. Yes I do agree with your point of view, making mistakes in life is really good.

  4. Excellent thoughts Hiten!

    Mistakes are only a problem when we fail to learn from them. Otherwise, they’re just a part of the learning experience. Without them we would be stagnant.

    But too many people use the fear of making a mistake as an excuse to never try anything new in the first place.

    What a shame.

    Because it’s our mistakes that allow us to grow. It’s how we handle them that shows our character.

    A mistake is not a failure. It’s simply an opportunity to learn.

    1. Hi Trevor,

      It’s great to see you here, my friend.

      Indeed, as you quite rightly said, mistakes can be an issue when we don’t learn from them. It can be very possible to just keep making the same mistakes again, if one is not willing to pause and reflect on what happened and what approach was taken. You’re right, without making mistakes there really is no movement.

      Absolutely, the fear of making mistake can stop us from even trying. I agree it is a shame. Some strange things happen when we become adults. There’s a tendency to become very self-conscious about doing things right and appropriately and this creates fear, which is false.

      I loved the way you stated a mistake as not being a failure and being an opportunity to learn. This is exactly what a mistake is.

      Many thanks for your insights and for adding to the discussion here.

  5. Great insights, Hiten. Making mistakes entices us to learn more. Mistakes without learning and growth, though, are wasted. There are lessons in mistakes, and we need to take the time to explore, understand, and take new, better ways.

    Having said this, the bigger mistakes, the bigger the recovery effort. We need to think through our actions and ensure we are taking the most reasonable, purpose-filled path possible. If we fail through really bad decisions, then we keep setting ourselves back. Recover is a very hard thing, and there are key lessons in recovery, too. However, if we can prevent certain mistakes by acting with forethought and consciousness, then we can side-step the big holes in life.

    The point being, I guess, is there are different types of mistakes. We are human, so we will make mistakes. We are human, so we can think ahead, too. Making mistakes creates learning opportunities. Bigger mistakes take a bigger effort to recover from, so we need to think and act in a way to adapt and learn rather than spending months and years on a long recovery path.

    Thanks!

    Jon

    1. Hi Jon,

      Indeed, as you quite rightly said, mistakes without learning can be a huge waste of time. One definitely needs to take some time to reflect on the approach used in terms of both attitude and physical actions, when the result required wasn’t achieved. Otherwise we run the risk of going around in circles leading nowhere.

      I loved what you wrote about the size of mistakes and the bigger they are, the bigger the path to recovery. Building upon what you wrote, in such cases, careful consideration is needed of the consequences of certain lines of action and a selection needs to be made of an option, which has the best chance of succeeding, yet at the same time will enable faster recovery if it doesn’t work out.

      Absolutely, as humans we have the ability to think ahead and can use this ability to risk manage activities at home and at work.

      Many thanks for your comment, Jon. It’s always great to hear thoughts and I appreciate you adding so much more to this post.

  6. Hiten – Some of the most wonderful points about “mistakes” here. I completely agree with you that we learn a lot from our mistakes, and in fact it also a proven fact now, and incorporated in some of the project management proceses to document your mistakes to learn from them.

    However, when it comes to personal life and decisions, a small mistake can sometimes lead to a disaster, so what I am trying to say is that the concept is relational to what we are talking about. Learning is always there, but then if a mistake leads to depression and disaster, then what is the point?

    Nice reading.

    1. Hi Praveen,

      Thanks so much for your comment and I could resonate with the points you made.

      Indeed, I liked what you wrote about documenting our mistakes in project management. Sometimes I really do think a lot of such principles which are used in the workplace, could also be used for our life projects.

      Absolutely, the concept is relative. A small mistake, as you said, can have disastrous consequences. I think in such cases, we need to use an approach similar to what Jon said in his comment and really consider different options and the consequences of each option not working and the impact of this. From this, we can select an approach which would take the least time of effort in terms of action and emotional effort to recover from if it doesn’t work out.

      Thanks so much for leaving a brilliant comment and adding so much more to this post. Hope you’re having a good week.

  7. Great post, Hiten! I used to be terrified of making mistakes because failure was simply not an option. That was until I realize that the fear of failure is a wound, and it’s simply not possible to go through life never making any mistakes. Of course, I still don’t go into any situation *intending* to make mistakes, but I’m much more accepting of the fact that mistakes just mean I tried something new and stretched myself out of my comfort. Also, it makes me more relatable to others. Really, all the points you raised in this article and then some. Also, just as an aside, I’d like to offer what I heard once a long time ago from a ballroom dancing friends – There are no mistakes, only variations. I love that – it underscores the fact that so much of our experience is a matter of judgment. If we can see mistakes as variations, then we can be more accepting of ourselves and others when what we do deviate from the guidepost of objective success. Thank you again for offering your accessible wisdom and insights!

    1. Hi Alice,

      I’m really glad you liked the post!

      Your comment was amazing and it really got me thinking. I love the way you accept mistakes as a sign that you stretched yourself out of your comfort zone. This is exactly what it is.

      Thanks a lot for sharing what you heard from your ballroom dancing friends and how there are no mistakes and only variations. One my hobbies is improvisational comedy (improv) and they also use a similar principle of there being no mistakes and only different ways of doing things. I think dancing and theatre based art forms really have got the basis for such practices correct, in order to help people to overcome fear and of being self-conscious. These types of principles also need to be emphasised with everyday life and work, but I often don’t see it much.

      Thanks very much, Alice for leaving your great comment, sharing your insights and adding so much more to this post.

  8. Brilliant Post Hiten,
    I love how the posts we all write about turn out to be universal because the reality of it is, they are. Truths are truths and we either learn through hardship or we learn through wisdom and experience. I recently interviewed a best selling author who wrote a book about this very subject 🙂
    Her advice was simple – If you aren’t willing to fail often, then you will never be a success in life.

    1. Hi Onder,

      It’s great to see you!

      I’m really glad you liked the post! Indeed, as you said, truths and truths and they are learnt through experience and work.

      I did hear the interview over at your blog and I really enjoyed it. Andrea’s advice about not being willing to fail often, leads to being unsuccessful is so true. You’re doing some great things at your blog. Keep it up!

      Thanks a lot for dropping by Onder, and for leaving your comment. I really appreciate it.

  9. Hi hiten,

    Nice post as usual, honestly speaking i do a lot of mistakes in my 23 yrs life And learn a new lesson from every mistake. With me always have a problem i did what i want, Dont care for result. some have been successful some not. But its another matter that these mistak not lead to depression. if u scared from mistakes u cant learn new things. So it is rightly said,
    “A life spent making mistakes is not only more honorable, but more useful than a life spent doing nothing.”

    1. Hi Rupali,

      I’m so glad you liked the post and thanks very much for sharing your experiences with making mistakes and how you learn a new lesson from every mistake made. This is brilliant. I really do love your approach of just getting on with what you want to do and not worrying about whether the result will be successful or not.

      Thanks so much for sharing the wonderful quote and sharing your great advice on this area, Rupali.

  10. Hey Hiten,
    I make mistakes all the time. I may not know it at the time and find out later on. However if I was to concern myself with “mistakes” then I wouldn’t try anything new or change it up a bit … and that would be a shame.
    Don’t let the fear of making mistakes stifle your creativity … look at Richard Branson.
    Thankyou and be good to yourself
    David
    Life Coach. Listener. Solution Finder.

    1. Hi David,

      Thanks so much for sharing your experiences with making mistakes. As you quite rightly said, being too concerned about making mistakes really would prevent us from trying something new. It is a shame, because then we prevent ourselves from making any progress and creating changes in our lives.

      I loved what you said about not letting fear restrict our creativity. This is very important as our real creative self will emerge once we have let go of the worry of making mistakes. Indeed, Richard Branson is an amazing example.

      Thanks very much for your excellent comment!

  11. Starting over with a new martial art at my age has been a humbling in making mistakes! There is a wonderful slogan we practice with — Invest in loss! It means that if we are willing to accept and even welcome our mistakes, we can learn with an open mind and not get bogged down with pride and ego. Great post!

    1. Hi Galen,

      I think it’s wonderful that you’ve got into martial arts! I did karate when I was kid for a couple of years. Sometimes I wish I had carried on.

      I loved the ‘Invest in loss’ slogan you practice. It has a wonderful meaning and demonstrates there is true value in getting things wrong. It also helps us to remember we are humans and as you said, not get overcome with pride and ego, which can both come about very quickly, unless we make efforts to tame them.

      I’m really glad you liked the post and many thanks for adding to the discussion here.

  12. Hi Hiten ,

    Thanks for sharing this article . You said it well , i also believe that mistakes are very good in life it teaches you alot of things , it makes you learn , it prepares you for future , it makes you strong.

    The points you are mentioned are really very true , I agree.

    1. Hi Maya,

      I’m really glad you liked the article and thanks very much for your great comment.

      Indeed, mistakes are just like you stated in that they enable us to learn and put us in good stead for the future. As you said, they make us stronger.

      Have a great weekend! 🙂

  13. Great thoughts my friend. It’s important to turn our failures or mistakes into learning opportunities. When we have a teachable mindset it allows us to learn and move through our mistakes. Great points!

    1. Hi Dan,

      I’m so glad you liked the post! Thanks a lot for commenting and for showing your support.

      I liked what you wrote in your comment about having a teachable mind-set. This sounds very powerful indeed. Such an attitude that is firmly embedded into our beliefs can really help us to embrace perceived challenging activities, as we are experimenting and expecting to get things wrong along the way, and we know we will learn as well.

      Have a great weekend, Dan! 🙂

      1. Being willing to learn in any situation can greatly help us. It’s a mindset. Glad to share.

        1. Many thanks, Dan. It’s always great to see you at the blog. 🙂

  14. Hello Hiten, Nice post my friend. As we grow older life is full of mistakes and that’s how you learn. Doing thing and realizing you made a mistake is normal we all been there and it’s a good thing as long as you learn from them.

    It’s a part of growing up and everyone makes them.

    Thanks so much for a great read

    1. Hi Rob,

      I’m so glad you liked the post and thanks for commenting. I really appreciate your support.

      Indeed, as you quite rightly said, doing things and making mistakes is a normal process that we all go through. They are good for us as long as we learn from them.

      I loved how you stated that mistakes are a part of growing up. This is so true.

      Have a great weekend, my friend.

  15. Hello Hiten sir, I believe in the saying “Yes I have made mistakes. Life didn’t come with instructions”.
    if someone has committed any mistake and he fails then he should try to develop the power to guide others. it will help to enhance his skills and at the same time others have the chance to follow the right path.

    You picked out nice points and really motivating. Good luck sir. 🙂

    1. Hi Ashish,

      Welcome to the blog! I loved the saying you included in your comment! Indeed, life certainly didn’t come with instructions! This is a really powerful way of dealing with the fear of making mistakes. Many thanks for sharing.

      I think those of us who have made mistakes and realise we need to in order to become more competent, can be a good voice for those who are still worried about getting things wrong.

      I’m really glad you liked the article and thanks so much for commenting.

      Have a great weekend ahead!

  16. Thanks Hiten, for reminding failures are the stepping stones of success. I also remember one more quote it says success is never final and failure is never fatal. So if we are doing mistakes it is just for the betterment.

    As I am a teacher by profession few times I too make mistakes in the class and children these days are quick to point out if we say anything wrong. You know what next time when I am teaching the same topic I won’t commit the same mistake at all so mistakes some times help us to perfection.

    1. Hi Vijesh,

      I loved the quote you remembered! Indeed, failure isn’t something we should fear. And creating success in our lives will be a lifetime process and we need to enjoy the journey.

      Thanks very much for sharing your experiences with mistakes in relation to your teaching work. It’s amazing how kids are so clever to pick up the mistakes. Indeed, as you quite rightly said, mistakes do help us in perfecting our art.

      Thanks very much for commenting, Vijesh. Have a great week.

  17. Hello Dr Hiten,
    Well firstly I was amazed to find a doctor doing blogging because Doctors hardly get any times from saving lives and bringing the smiles on the patients as well as others. 🙂
    Well mistakes are the first step to success because mistakes makes you realize are you on the correct track or you are just off-the-track. Secondly it opens an all new space for improvisation which is the only thing we thrive for throughout our lives, i.e. to make our lives more and more better. The more the mistakes you make, the more you are likely to be closer to excellence followed by success.
    According to me mistakes and failures are not the stones that hamper, but are the milestones to achieve. 🙂

    So well written article. I really feel that if each and every doctor starts writing the rate of healing will increase to a greater extent. 🙂

    Charmie

    1. Hi Charmie,

      Welcome to the blog!

      I must inform, I’m not a doctor in the medical sense! I have a PhD.

      Your comment was absolutely amazing. What you wrote about mistakes being the first step to success is so true! Indeed, as you quite rightly said, mistakes do help us to realise whether the path we’re taking is correct or if we need to make adjustments. Without making mistakes we would never be able to gain this information for ourselves.

      I’m so glad you liked the article and thanks so much for adding some wonderful insights into making mistakes. I really appreciate you adding so much more to this article. Thank you, Charmie!

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