More Empowering Attitudes

This post is part two in the three part series on NLP Presuppositions. If you haven’t read part one, you can do so here.

So, let’s get straight onto some more powerful concepts, ideas and beliefs that can help you in your daily life:

7. We can model excellence, and even genius, if we break the tasks into small enough chunks. If someone can do something, then it’s a human possibility

This is one powerful belief.

Let’s consider it for a moment. By being able to model excellence, we can truly observe those people who have completed activities, tasks and achieved goals, which we may also want to accomplish.

We can break down into small bites what they do internally in terms of their thoughts and beliefs. We can model and replicate what they see, hear and feel in their thoughts.

We can model and repeat the self-talk they say to themselves and the beliefs they layer onto themselves.

Now by doing the above, doesn’t it just totally shatter into pieces the belief that we can’t do what we want to, because we’re not good enough?

I believe it does.

8. Mind-body are part of the same system and influence each other

Our minds-and-bodies are connected. There’s no other way about it.

You can experience this for yourself.

Just think of a happy experience you had previously. Really imagine it vividly. Do you now feel good inside your body? You’ve just witnessed how the mind impacts the body.

You can try this out the other way too.

If you go for a good workout at the gym, or even take a brisk walk, your mind will be clear and refreshed. In this case you used your body to impact you mind.

This mind-body connection is extremely powerful for making change in your lives.

Think and cultivate positive, happy, empowering and resourceful thoughts and your body will support you in your endeavours.

On a similar note, by taking care of your body through eating the right foods and getting plenty of sleep and exercise, means the mind will be in a good shape to continue developing and living wholesomely.

9. It’s always better to have choice, than the lack of choice

This is one attitude I have personally internalised. I’ve taught myself to look for choices by default.

How could this belief help you in your life?

Are you at the moment experiencing a lack of abundance in your life, because you’re not seeing the choices you have right in front of you?

If so, for whatever problem you are experiencing a lack of choice in, physically get a pen and piece of paper and write down ten ways that you can overcome the problem.

The choices are always there. Of course, they might not always be apparent. Doing something as simple as writing, can help us see the abundance which is there.

10. We add to choices in NLP, we don’t take choices away

How amazing is this one! What a powerful assumption to live by.

The whole NLP model, whether used for achieving excellence or for overcoming emotional problems is about increasing choices.

This is one of the reasons why NLP is such a helpful tool to life coaches, executive coaches and therapists.

11. Since memory and imagination use the same neurological circuits as external sensory awareness, they can powerfully influence our development

I really experienced this truth about this after I read Dr Maxwell Maltz’s amazing book Psycho-Cybernetics.

I was due to give a presentation at a leadership training course I was attending in my mid-twenties. I practiced and practiced giving a powerful and charismatic speech using my imagination. I vividly saw myself speaking confidently, with ease and authority. And then I stepped into myself, so that I was looking out of my own eyes giving this presentation with true grace.

And it worked. I scored a high mark and members of the audience told me afterwards how they really enjoyed it.

What this means is we don’t always have to have experienced behaving in a desired way in the ‘real world’ for it to become real.

Our mind-bodies will process what we have imagined and remembered like it is happening ‘for real’ anyway.

Therefore using your imagination and memory can be a very powerful way to enable personal transformation.

12. People are more than their actions, words, emotions, roles etc.

This belief allows us to see ourselves beyond what we do, say, feel and the roles we play in life.

It allows us to do the very same thing with other people.

By understanding this concept, we can forgive ourselves and others for mistakes. We free ourselves of limiting labels we might be calling ourselves, because we are more than this.

We are always more than our actions, words, emotions and roles.

For me personally, when I think of myself as a spiritual being, this is more powerful than what I will ever say or do. These other things become stuff of the ego, which for me can never be the real me.

Part two of this three part series on the NLP Presuppositions is complete. Stay tuned for the final one coming soon!

Photo Credit: Melody Cambell

Editor’s Note: This article was first published on hitenvyas.com in December 2012.

 

20 Comments
  1. Great points Hiten
    especially number 8, both the mind and the body affect each other very strongly , i am to research that topic these days, thank you

    1. Hi Farouk,

      I’m really glad you liked the points, my friend!

      Number 8 really is a key one. Really understanding how the mind-body connection works allows us to take charge of our lives. We learn to create empowering thoughts and emotions that motivate and inspire us.

      Many thanks for commenting Farouk! 🙂

  2. Great post Hiten and I ‘m a total convert to flipping my thoughts around and pushing forward. I have used visualisation and these techniques to help me move through business obstacles in setting up on my own with public speaking and just getting down to getting started with the act of blogging.
    Whenever I hit a hurdle I say to myself…’who do I know who has overcome this and what can I learn from them.
    Look forward to reading part 3!

    1. Hi Kath,

      I’m really glad you enjoyed the post!

      I loved your comment. It was truly inspirational. The ability to ‘flip thoughts’, as you put it, really is priceless, isn’t it? It has the potential to literally change our lives. Creative visualisation when done right is a brilliant way of programming our mind-body for success.

      Many thanks for adding so much more to this post. I loved the point you made about considering others who have overcome hurdles you are facing. Indeed, this is a brilliant example of living life through adopting and practicing point 7 in the post. Brilliant stuff!

      Thanks a lot for commenting! 🙂

  3. Wonderful post Hiten. However……

    “We can break down into small bites what they do internally in terms of their thoughts and beliefs. We can model and replicate what they see, hear and feel in their thoughts.”

    hmmmm….modelling is the part of NLP which I struggled with. If I can play the devils
    advocate here, can we REALLY find out what someone else is doing internally? What strategy they are
    using? What VAK’s are in operation for them at any particular time? I feel that at best we can just guess.
    Sure we can model at a higher, more overt level – eg. if someone has lost 3 stones of weight by
    following a certain diet, following a certain exercise regime, then we can try the same thing. But that’s
    not modeling per se. NLP modelling says we can have the same self talk as the other person – well,
    the reality is that we will never know the other persons self-talk. A lot of the time, we aren’t even
    aware of our OWN self-talk!

    I’ve just read the autobiography of Alan Sugar, and immediately, I found it caused a noticeable shift in the
    way I look at my own business. Is that because I was inspired and motivated by Sugars book? Yes. Is that
    because I got lots of ideas from the book? Yes. Is that modelling? Nope – not the way NLP
    describes it, because I’ve never met Sugar, I don’t know his self-talk, and I don’t know what VAK’s he used
    to pursue his business life. All I see is the external results he achieved.

    So, my own take is that modelling is a great theoretical concept in NLP, but I don’t think
    it’s as easy as it’s made out to be.

    I hope this post doesn’t come across as critical – you’ve blog is a fantastic read, and this is just my two-pence worth on an area of NLP which is (in my opinion) never really properly explained – and I say because I myself am an NLP qualified practitioner!

    1. Hi Harmy,

      Many thanks for writing such a comprehensive comment and adding so much more to this post! Much appreciated.

      I understand the point you made about difficulties with modelling with NLP. However, this is something I do frequently with my clients, although in this case, I’m modelling what they are doing internally in terms of what they are seeing, hearing, feeling and saying to themselves (at the thought level) when they are experiencing emotional problems. I ask them what they are doing inside their thoughts. This is critical to do, because the client is then aware of the ‘strategy’ they are using and can then try on another one to see if it changes how they feel.

      It sounds like Alan Sugar’s autobiography is a great read!

      Again, the type of modelling I’m talking about would involve asking the person what they are doing internally. Many people will not understand this right away. However, if one asks the person to analyse their thoughts at a structural level, then this will enable modelling to happen.

      Thanks once again for leaving an awesome comment! 🙂

  4. Most interesting, Hiten. I like your points on the mind-body connection. Just last evening I read a wonderfully inspiring post by a lady who has vertigo and how she has worked on her mind to make sure she never falls.
    The fact that NLP adds to our choices is another reason why it is an empowering tool for individuals and coaches. Perhaps next year, I’ll delve into NLP like I’ve always planned to do.
    I see that you have a course scheduled in Hyderabad. That’s my home city. I’m wondering how your choice came about. 🙂
    Thanks for the mention. I so appreciate it. ♥

    1. PS: Sorry I think I got the Hyderabad course wrong 😛

    2. Hi Corinne,

      I’m really glad you found the post interesting!

      The post you read about the lady who has vertigo sounds great. It sounds like an amazing example of using the mind to control the body.

      Do you have link to it?

      I definitely recommend trying out some NLP with the work you do. At the very least, it will add to the choices you have to use different approaches, depending on what your clients want to work on.

      The communication course is being organised by my friends at The Indian Stammering Association in Hyderabad this year. I’m helping to spread the word. If you’ve got any free time over that period, then do drop by. I’m sure the guys would be thrilled to see you!

      You’re very welcome about the mention. It’s a real pleasure.

  5. There is some power here Hiten. I don’t embrace all of the NLP concepts however many have great value for the coach and coachee. Thanks for putting it out there.
    Be good to yourself
    David

    1. Hi David,

      Thanks for your comment! I agree NLP concepts add to the tools available for the coach and coachee. It’s all about increasing our choices! 🙂

      Many thanks for commenting and for showing your support, David. Much appreciated, as always.

  6. Great post and great point, Hiten. That’s right, I too believe we can do what we want, if we want. To be successful, just follow the path tread by the successful people and imbibe their habits and beliefs. If we live for each day, the whole life will be taken care of. #7 is really powerful, and analytically reveals this secret.

    I agree that our mind-body greatly influence each other. We can use the either to have an effect on the other. You need to keep the body and the mind healthy. And yes, life is all about perceiving the choices you’ve and then picking up the right one. Your suggestion of writing the choices down is a good way to tackle a problem.

    There’s an old saying that you become what you think – it’s true. If you imagine yourself to be successful, you will be – you’ve given a good example of how imagination and memory become powerful tools to help us transform.

    #12 is very helpful in our interactions with people. I’ve experienced that I’m not really me all the time. Sometimes I send out wrong or incomplete signals and I know it would be wrong if people judge or evaluate me on that basis. If we extend this consideration to others too, we can better our opinions about them. We are all certainly more than our actions, words, emotions, and roles. And, I feel knowing the real you is the ultimate aim of life.

    1. Hi Harleena,

      I loved your comment. It had a very powerful undertone and your words added brilliantly to this post.

      You said “If we live for each day, the whole life will be taken care of.” What a powerful sentence. Do you mind if I quote you? 🙂

      Indeed, if one thing is possible for a human, then it is also possible for others to achieve. The wonderful thing is, no matter what it is we want to do in life and may be finding difficult, someone else in the world went through the same difficulties and came out on top.

      I’m really glad you could relate to the mind-body influence on each other. I know this is one of your own areas of expertise.

      Imagination when used correctly can be very powerful. We spend so much time imagining what might go wrong. Instead we can use our ability to imagine, to taste success, before it has happened.

      You explained another dimension to point number 12 brilliantly. It is just how you said it. We send out wrong signals all the time. It is normal to do so and a part of being a marvellously fallible human being. We wouldn’t want to be judged on this. Point number 12 enables us to appreciate we are more than our words, actions, emotions and roles, and as you quite rightly said, extend this consideration to others.

      The way you ended your comment was amazing as well: “And, I feel knowing the real you is the ultimate aim of life.”

      How amazing Harleena! Thank you.

  7. Hi Hiten, even though I’ve taken a break off blogging, I’m just stopping by to say Happy Holidays to all my blogging friends. Thanks for all the support, comments, visits etc. I hope you have fun with your loved ones and I wish you all the best for 2013.

    1. Hi Anne,

      Thank you so much for dropping by! Wishing you and your loved ones a very Merry Christmas and Happy New Year!

      I’ve really enjoyed your blog and commenting on your posts and look forward to some more great stuff from you in 2013. Likewise, thank you for all the support you’ve shown me this year too!

      Take care and Happy Holidays!

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  9. All your affirmations are so accurate. I loved the part where you have described that people are more than their actions.

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