Why Difficulties Are Really Not That Bad


When you’re in the midst of a difficulty; whether in your personal or professional life, you can feel like there’s no way out. However, your difficulty isn’t something you need to fear, or try to resist.

As counter-intuitive as this may sound, there are many positives inside your difficulty that exist, should you wish to see them. Read on to find out more:

There can be no solution without a difficulty

Difficulties by their very nature have solutions. Otherwise difficulties would just be problems with no way out.

Therefore, realise that what you’re experiencing is temporary and there is a corresponding solution out there for your challenge.

What do you need to do, or who do you need to talk to, to find that solution?

An opportunity to develop self-awareness

Experiencing a difficulty is a wonderful opportunity to develop your self-awareness. You can do this by going inwards and looking at the underlying thoughts, and emotions that are contributing to your problem, along with the way you are reacting that end up in you feeling bad.

These types of internal experiments can do wonders for helping you to change your thoughts and beliefs about your difficulty and your perspective on the world.

You get to be the star

Ever want to be a hero, or heroine? The good news is you can, because a hero or heroine is not resigned to a character in a movie.

And why do we love heroes and heroines so much? We love them because they overcome big adversities; often completely against the odds.

Surely, when you’ve overcome your difficulty, you’ve followed a similar plot?

You can inspire others

When I was younger and struggling with stammering, I never knew that years later I would be giving motivational talks to young people sharing my story. Yet, this is what I regularly do these days.

The difficulties you overcome become a part of your life story. Someone, somewhere in the world will be inspired by your life story, should you one day wish to share it.

Your confidence grows

When you face a difficulty head on and overcome it, your confidence grows.

If you’re currently feeling unconfident, then there’s no better remedy than doing something that challenges you to raise your self-belief.

Your relationships grow

A problem shared, is a problem halved. You will often need someone to help you deal with your problem. This might be a close friend or a family member who hears you out.

By reaching out to others in times of need, you create an opportunity for your relationships to develop.

You will value your difficulty

You may not see any value in the difficulty right now. However, in years to come, you certainly might.

Have you ever had a feeling where you were faced with a challenge, dealt with it and then later on realised you needed to have the experience, in order to be at the position you’re currently at?

You will probably go through the same cycle with the current difficulty you’re facing.

My friend’s, it’s over to you:

• What other positives exist in the difficulties we face in our lives?
• Please share your valuable views, experiences and thoughts in the comments box.
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Merry Christmas to you all!

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  1. I think you have done a wonderful job of yourself. I also know others who have stammered and have gone to do very well in life. So as you say, any difficulties are certainly not that bad. When you take on a difficulty head on, it makes you stronger to take on other issues. Other thing is that you find out who your real friends are. Those who stick around are the real friends and those who don’t, you know what to do with them.

  2. Hi Shalu,

    Thank you so much for your kind words, and it’s wonderful to hear about other people who’ve had stammering difficulties and have gone on to really do well in life. It just shows that we’re only limited by the self-imposed limitations we put on ourselves. We can find solutions to any difficulties we may be facing.

    Indeed, you’re right. Overcoming challenges certainly does make us stronger to take on other feats. I can also appreciate what you wrote about realising who our true friends are and who are not, when we’re going through difficult periods. This is so true.

    Many thanks for commenting , Shalu. Wishing you and your loved ones a very happy festive season!

  3. Hi Hiten,

    Lovely post, yet again 🙂

    Yes indeed, difficulty is what makes a man as they say, and I do believe they do. Just as you mentioned, you tend to evolve as a better and wiser person once you go through difficulties in your life. You begin to realize and value things much more, because you know all the hardships you have gone through to achieve them.

    Life is never easy for any of us. Just as Shalu mentioned, you are a wonderful example of going through tough times in life, but see what all you have overcome and achieved such a great deal, which is commendable indeed. Tough times never last, it’s the tough people who do, and ALL of them have gone through difficult times I’m sure.

    Thanks for sharing. Have a nice week ahead, and Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year to you and yours 🙂

    1. Hi Harleena,

      Thank you so much for your wonderful comment, my dear friend!

      Indeed, you’re so right. Difficulties and our responses to them really do help to define character. I can so appreciate what you said about how we value I things much more after we’ve experienced difficulties. It also helps us to be humble and also compassionate towards others.

      Many thanks for your kind words about my experiences. I really do believe each one us has a story to tell from which we can learn and be inspired from.

      What you wrote about tough times never lasting and how it’s tough people who do was wonderful! What a great way of looking at things!

      Many thanks for adding so much more to this post, Harleena!

      Wishing you and your family a very Merry Christmas and a very Happy New Year! 🙂

  4. Hey Hiten,

    I would say facing difficulties makes a person more stronger from inside, but it can also takes toll on you emotionally and mentally. At times I am pulled in my personal life and professional life at the same time and the whole felling is not more than hell. In my case not a single person can help when I am in difficult time. Hope, with new year I get break from this tug of war between my two lives.

    1. Hi Pooja,

      What you wrote about how facing difficulties making a person stronger, yet it taking a toll emotionally is certainly true. One way I like to deal with difficulties is to look at them like experiments or like a type of game, in which I have different options to try out things. Such an approach enables me to create a certain level of distance from the difficulty, so that my self-esteem remains strong. Regarding the tug of war you mentioned that you’re experience, have you thought perhaps about prioritising activities in your personal and professional life?

      Many thanks for commenting, and joining the discussion here, Pooja. I wish you very Happy New Year and hope you make great progress in your endeavours.

  5. Hiten, You are so right. Our difficulties test us and we need to be determined in how we address them, lead through them, and understand how they make us stronger and unique in our viewpoints. The points you raise are essential to be soaked in and used fully in life. Thank you! Jon

    1. Hi Jon,

      Indeed, as you said, difficulties can be viewed as tests. By being determined to face them rather than avoid them, we become stronger when we get through them. As you said, dealing with difficulties also enables us to develop our unique perspective on the world, and strengthens our character.

      Many thanks for commenting, Jon and for joining the discussion here.

  6. Great perspective, my friend. I’ve come to appreciate that life is a series of contrasting experiences. Where there is darkness, there is always light. Where there is fear, there is love. Otherwise, we won’t get to experience the full range of human emotions, which is a huge part of why our spirits took on bodies to be here. Also, breakthroughs don’t happen from nothing, but rather by pushing through seemingly impossible odds. So, the pain is very much a part of the triumph with the breakthrough. Thanks for another thought-provoking post, Hiten. Happy Holidays!

    1. Hi Alice,

      I just loved what you shared in your comment.

      As you say, life is full of contrasting experiences, and as humans we experience a full range of emotions, both good and and bad.

      I can really appreciate what you said about pain being a part of the triumph. By understanding how such things are already so interconnected, we need not fear the pain.

      Thanks for adding so much more to this post, Alice! I’m having a really good holiday period, thanks. Hope you are too! 🙂

  7. This has surley been one of those diffcult years for me and the family and I’m still trying to keep my head above water. What I see when things are trying to keep you down I seem to get even stronger because I won’t let hard times keep me down.

    I hope all is well my friend it’s great to read such an up lifting post….

    1. Hi Rob,

      I’m so happy to see you, my friend. It sounds like it’s been a tough year and as you say, you’ve kept your head above water and you’ve become stronger. If there’s anything I can do, please do let me know.

      I’m doing well thank you, Rob and I wish you and your family a very Happy New Year.

  8. Great view of seeing things Hiten.

    And you’re right, everyone loves an underdog! 🙂

    1. Hi Ludvig,

      I’m really glad you liked the post, my friend.

      Indeed, we all certainly do love an underdog! There’s something very inspiring about a person who was never expected to win to come out on top.

      Thanks for commenting, Ludvig and I would like to wish you a very Happy New Year!

  9. Wonderful post Hiten and such wonderful points to appreciate when facing difficulties. I find that I am able to value myself more when I am faced with difficulties as it brings out so many aspects of myself that I normally don’t get to see. Difficulties give us that special window of time when we can see ourselves in a very empowered light!

    Thank you so much for sharing this Hiten!

    1. Hi Karen,

      I’m really glad you enjoyed the post and it’s wonderful to see you here, my friend!

      I just loved what you wrote about valuing yourself more when you face difficulties. You’re right. Difficult times really can bring out the best in us and we can prove to ourselves just how resourceful we are and how much resolve we have.

      Many thanks for your inspiring comment, Karen and I would like to wish you a very Happy New Year!

  10. Hi Hiten,

    As the sayings go, there is a silver lining in any obstacle. And those who overcome them are the ones we all celebrate and call them heroes.

    We are all can be referred to us heroes if we don’t allow those present circumstances to swallow us up.

    Thanks Hiten for this interesting piece and I wish you a Happy new year.

    1. Hi Emmanuel,

      You’re so right about there being a silver lining in any obstacle. There is always something positive in any difficult experience. It is such experiences that define our characters.

      Indeed, as you say, those who overcome challenges we celebrate as heroes. As you say, we all too will be heroes and heroines when we breakthrough challenges and establish just how much we really can achieve.

      Many thanks for commenting, Emmanuel and a very Happy New Year to you, and your family.

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  12. Hello Hiten Vyas,

    It is a nice topic – difficulties are not that bad. I think difficulty helps you to be innovative, to be strong & above all helps you to be positive & win the challenge or overcome the obstacle.

    Life is not a bed of roses. So we need to survive in this world by wining the obstacles. You mentioned your own life example & how you win them. This will great inspiration for readers.

    Anyway have a nice & safe Happy New Year 🙂

    1. Hi Ahsan,

      Thank you very much for your kind New Year wishes and a very Happy New Year to you, too! I hope 2014 for you is full of good health, peace and success! 🙂

      I just loved what you wrote in your comment, my friend! As you say, difficulties can help us to be innovative and they can make us think outside of the box. I never looked at it like this, and thanks for sharing! Indeed, what you wrote about life not being a bed of roses is so true. When we’re faced with challenges, we need to look deep and allow those resources that are within us, to come out and help us overcome the issues.

      Many thanks for adding so much more value to this post, Ahsan. Have a wonderful week ahead! 🙂

  13. Hi Hiten,

    Another inspiring post – I think stammering must be one of the hardest things to overcome. I heard an article about it on the radio only the other day – Michael Palin was talking about it, because his father used to stammer, and he’s set up an organisation, in London I think, to provide therapy for children who stammer and support for them and their families.

    I couldn’t agree with you more that it’s often our difficulties that make us strong and build our character – but it can be hard to see them as positive when you’re in the midst of them! I think as we get older (and hopefully wiser!) it can be easier to see them in a positive light, particularly if we remind ourselves of the things we’ve got through in the past.

    Thanks, Hiten 🙂

    1. Hi Sue,

      Indeed, stammering can be a huge challenge to deal with. It impacts every aspect of a person’s life and at the very core of one’s sense of self.

      Indeed, I’m aware of Michael Palin’s brilliant centre to help young children who stammer. It is one of my life goals to one day open a centre that helps young children deal exclusively with the negative emotions associated with stammering.

      I can really appreciate what you wrote about it becoming easier to see the positives in difficulties when we’re older. It is so much harder to do when we’re younger, which is made worse if a young person doesn’t know how to reach out for help.

      Many thanks for your wonderful comment my friend, and for adding some great insights to this post.

      Hope you’re having a good week!

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