Why It Pays To Ask


Do you want to make progress in your life, but feel overwhelmed by all that you have to do? Do you need help, but are afraid to seek it because you believe people won’t want to assist you? If so, check out the following tips to find out why it is good to ask:

It’s impossible to do everything

I’m sure there a many tasks and activities you can do by yourself. However, there any many that you can’t. Yes, you can always learn to do more. However, if you’re completely swamped because of existing commitments, then asking for help really is the way to go.

Asking doesn’t make you any less

When you were a kid, the chances are you were encouraged to ask for help at school when you were stuck. This principle doesn’t change just because you’re an adult.

Remember, asking for help isn’t a sign of weakness. It’s completely normal and something worth getting into the habit of doing.

It helps clearer communication

If you’re working in a team either at work, or in your community, then there will be times when you will be responsible for particular activities. Rather than doing something that you’re not totally clear about, ask for clarity first, so that you can do the best job possible.

You get more done

One of the key benefits of asking for help, is it allows you and the person(s) who is helping you to get more done. By working as a team in a mutually beneficial way, the impact of your work is far greater.

Better relationships

Asking others for help gives you an opportunity to create, meaningful relationships with the people you ask, which could last for years. Once you’ve asked a person to help you once, he or she will be likely to help you again.

More opportunities

Asking for help, in addition, can open up more opportunities for you. The people that support you will also have contacts and they could very well introduce others to you, which will increase your network.

It fills your skills gaps

By all means, it’s a good idea to keep on learning new competencies. However, as my friend Dan Black says, if the investment you will need to make to do so, in order to complete your task is too high, ask for help from someone who already has the necessary background and experience. It makes life so much easier.

It’s efficient

Sure, you’re very busy. Therefore there’s no need to think you have to do everything. By asking others for help, you free up time to make progress with other activities that need your attention.

Help back

Remember though, helping is a two way process. There will be times at work or in your personal life, where people will seek help. When they do, and if you’re in a position to do so, help them. People will remember you as someone they can trust and can count on.

My friends, it’s over to you:

• What other reasons can you think of, which explain why it is good to ask for help?
• Please share your valuable views, experiences and thoughts in the comments box below.
• Please also share this post on your favourite social networks. Thank you.

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  1. Fine tips and explanations here Hiten. Without Questions we have no answers and Yes … You can’t do it by yourself. Bring someone else into the equation and solve your problem together. Thank You.

    Be good to yourself

    1. Hi David,

      I’m so glad you liked the post, my friend!

      Indeed, as you say, without questions we have no answers. This itself is enough to appreciate just how important questions are if we are to deal with challenges. Absolutely, solving problems collectively can be an extremely rewarding experience.

      Thanks so much for commenting, David and for adding so much more value to this post!

  2. Hi Hiten,

    You are SO right in saying all that you did 🙂

    It IS good to ask for help to make your life a little easier for you I think. Just as you mentioned, it’s not possible for you to do everything always all alone. Certain things require more than one person handling affairs, or we need the help of others in the tasks at times, when it only makes sense to seek another persons help. It’s also like delegating duties that enhances your efficiency and gives you time to concentrate on other things that also need your attention.

    I seek help of my hubby if I am stuck in some tech aspect of the blog, or ask my kids to dust the area or lay out the table, so that I can work on other things – sometimes they even cook up a meal if they are in a good mood. So, ask and you shall receive as they say is what we all must be, when need be, just as you mentioned.

    Thanks for sharing. Have a nice week ahead 🙂

    1. Hi Harleena,

      You wrote such a wonderful comment, my friend! As you quite rightly said, some things by their very nature need more than one person anyway. Therefore, it is literally impossible for one to do everything! I think learning to delegate at appropriate times is a great skill to develop.

      I think it’s wonderful that your husband helps you with the technology aspects of your blog, and also that your kids cook meals, as well! This is brilliant! As you say, ask we shall receive.

      Many thanks for commenting, Harleena and hope you’re feeling better! 🙂

  3. Hiten great tips and this is a year for me to ask for help and feel good about it. Thanks for sharing. I like you get more done 🙂

    1. Hi Suzie,

      I’m really glad you liked the tips, my friend!

      It’s wonderful that 2014 is the year for you to ask for help and feel good, too! This is wonderful.

      Many thanks for commenting, Suzie! 🙂

  4. Hi Hiten,

    Feeling good to see Again killing and creative tips from you. Sometimes we hesitate to ask for help from others, we think it will show our weakness but its not true. As you said it can create more chances of problem solving and better communication.

    So we must communicate our problems and create a helpful, familiar environment to be more productive and efficient.

    keep sharing these kind of articles…

    1. Hi Rupali,

      I’m really glad you liked the article, my friend.

      Your comment reminded me of the old saying, which is that a problem shared, is a problem halved. And we take this further by asking for help to overcome the problem we’re experiencing.

      Many thanks for adding so much more value to this post, Rupali!

  5. Hiten,

    Great post. The real question may be this: Have you ever gone a day without asking a question? If the answer is “no,” then you are not learning or engaging with the people around you. Jon

    1. Hi Jon,

      I’m really glad you liked the post!

      The question you shared is really powerful, and as you say, if the answer is “no” then we’re not learning or connecting with others; two things we should be striving to do as much as possible.

      Many thanks for commenting, Jon!

  6. Great points, Hiten 🙂

    When I think about asking, often times, I think of class rooms. I do understand the importance of asking for help (I think I do :D).

    But, still sometimes, I don’t ask the questions (the ego is still playing a role here…I am thinking..Am I the only one with the qn? I know in reality that other people may not necessarily understand the concepts. They might have chose not to ask, like me).

    And, I do want to make the choice (I will be helping me and those other students, right?). When I think about it, it’s seems like an easy task..but when the situation arises, it becomes hard (My ego keeps telling me: you don’t want to look dumb in front of those people).

    Anyways, I will keep trying – to overcome my ego (it doesn’t really matter what others think…what matters is that I learn the concepts..after all, that’s why we go to school, right?).

    Anyways, thank you for sharing this, Hiten 🙂 Appreciate it!

    1. Hi Jeevan,

      It’s wonderful to see you here, my friend.

      Ah, what you wrote about our egos stopping us from asking is so true. So is what you said about helping ourselves and others by asking. I think you’ve shared a great tip here, which is to remember that others probably don’t understand as well. Therefore, we can take the initiative and ask.

      I loved what you wrote about what being important is the concepts we learn and not what others think. This is another excellent thing to remind ourselves of.

      Many thanks for sharing such wonderful insights, Jeevan. Have a great weekend! 🙂

  7. Absolutely right Hiten, I agree with you completely. Sometimes you do feel if you are doing the right thing by asking or not but you will be surprised that if you do ask, there are lots of people who will respond positively. So it does pay to ask. So don’t be afraid to ask your friends, relatives or someone who you know.

    1. Hi Shalu,

      You made some really interesting points. As you quite rightly said, many times we hesitate to ask, yet so many people want to help. Therefore, we need to ask more.

      Thanks for commenting, Shalu!

  8. I find continually asking for help greatly reduces stress levels as our problems can be shared around and we might find out answers to question that we would never find on our own. It doesn’t always have to be something practical either. We can ask people for their opinions or even if they need YOUR help. It works both ways.

    1. Hi Jamie,

      Absolutely, asking for help does reduce stress, as does just asking for an opinion or even talking things through. This is a great reminder that it is good to talk rather than keeping problems we’re facing to ourselves.

      Many thanks for commenting, Jamie and hope you’re having a good weekend.

  9. Oh this is a good topic Hiten. I have always had real issues when it comes to asking for help, but a former mentor of mine worked with me on this. At the time I was in the travel business and spent half the year on planes and traveling outside of the US so I realized that learning to ask was imperative – not only – as you point out – that one person often can’t do it all – but also for my safety and my success as a negotiator. I learned some very important lessons during that time.

    1. Hi Marty,

      Thank you so much for sharing such wonderful life lessons around this area.

      As you explained from your travelling experiences, asking is so important for our own safety and also for enabling us to work effectively in unfamiliar surroundings.

      Many thanks for commenting, Marty and hope you’re having a good weekend!

  10. Hi Hiten,

    Very interesting topic which I find myself lack of 🙂 Well, may be not.

    Since the childhood I was afraid to ask help or bother others on my problems, but always wanted to help others when I can. Anonymously, if I can. I didn’t have too many things going on either, so I managed to do things by myself without bothering others. So far I’ve been doing the same and if I couldn’t do something myself, I learnt it 🙂 Pretty good so far!

    I feel kinda guilty if I ask for help (even from close friends), ’cause they have to devote their time for me which I feel they can’t afford. Not if I pay ’em in return or so. Of course, if it’s something compulsory, I’m not gonna waste time on it for sure. Yet I feel pretty much better being myself and achieving alone 🙂

    Thanks for the thought provoking post Hiten 🙂 Got me thinking!

    You have a fabulous weekend mate!


    1. Hi Mayura,

      It’s wonderful to see you here, my friend!

      Like you, my challenges with asking started when I was a kid. And I can also relate to what you wrote about feeling guilty about asking others and not wanting to bother others. What helped me become more forward in terms of asking is when I started work and realised far more could be achieved by asking for help.

      Also, when running a business, I realised it would be far easier to get others to help rather than doing everything myself.

      It’s great that you’re getting so much done alone! And you’re right, we learn so much. If it ever gets too much in the future though, do ask for help. 🙂

      Many thanks fot adding some great insights to this post, Mayura! Have a wonderful week ahead!

  11. Hey Hiten,

    “Once you’ve asked a person to help you once, he or she will be likely to help you again.”

    —-> This is a good point you make, and something I’ve thought about myself a lot over the past year. It’s definitely a thing that has proven true to me.

    Honestly, I think asking people things is a bit like what Wayne Gretzsky said:
    “You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take”. And the same could be said about asking — you’ll never know if you don’t ask.

    In the short-term it may be embarrassing or whatever, but in the long-term you won’t learn much without daring to ask.

    1. Hi Ludvig,

      It’s great to see you here, my friend!

      I loved the quote you shared by Wayne Gretzsky and also your explanation of how this principle can also be applied to asking. As you said, if we don’t ask, we’ll never know.

      Your point about embarrassment got me thinking of the short term gain we get when we don’t ask. It may seem like we are protecting ourselves for a short period. However, we definitely don’t improve ourselves in the long term.

      Many thanks for leaving such a wonderful comment, Ludvig!

  12. Hiten, I love the emphasis on bearing our vulnerabilities, on being brave enough to own up and ask for help. I also know that sometimes, in our haste to externalise what we think we want, need or desire, we overlook our own internal guidance.
    To truly ask and be brave enough to go within, sometimes reveals the most amazing of answers.
    Thank you for writing this post.

    1. Hi Li-ling,

      What you wrote in your comment is great and what a wonderful perspective to add to this post!

      As you say, the best answers are usually within us, already. We just need to be brave and ask our inner wisdom to reveal the solutions we need.

      Many thanks for adding so much more value to this post, Li-ling!

  13. Hiten, I love the emphasis on bearing our vulnerabilities, on being brave enough to own up and ask for help. I also know that sometimes, in our haste to externalise what we think we want, need or desire, we overlook our own internal guidance.
    To truly ask and be brave enough to go within, sometimes reveals the most amazing of answers.
    Thank you for writing this post.

  14. Hi Hiten,
    I agree with you about the fact that asking doesnt make you any less.It generates humility;something invaluable in interpersonal interactions.
    When we interact with people we need to be sure about what value we can gain by our interaction with them.Not an avaricious, greedy grab and run attitude of using and throwing people ;but an attitude of simultaneous humility and strength which urges us to find meaning in the most innocuous interaction with every one around us.
    By the way “interaction” also includes our conceptualisation ,our thoughts,our memories, and our expectations of others. That’s because whenever we think of any one in any way we are actually interacting with them on the mental plane.The fact is that we can generate value for ourselves from our conceptualisations also.

    1. Hi Mona,

      You shared some wonderful insights in your comment, my friend!

      I can so resonate with what you said about asking and how it is completely human to do so. When we ask for help, people can relate to us, as others also know what it feels like when they need help themselves.

      Absolutely, as you quite rightly said, asking should come from a position of simultaneous humility and willingness on our part to help those who we seek assistance from.

      Indeed, as you stated, interaction can also happen through our thoughts and memories. Therefore, it’s important to ensure we take care of what we entertain in the contents of our minds, in order to send out positive vibes to others.

      Many thanks for leaving such a wonderful comment, Mona. Hope you’re having a good weekend.

  15. Awesome post man! I can’t count how many times I’ve been surprised by how generous people have been when I simply asked for help or advice.

    One example comes to mind: about a year ago, I was a starving student and was running out of space on my Dropbox account. So out of the blue I emailed the company to ask them if they could show any consideration because I was a broke student, and without any hesitation they upgraded my account from 2GB of storage to 20GB!

    That’s just a small example in a long string of them, but in my experience it always pays to ask 🙂 great post.

    1. Hi Chris,

      I’m really glad you liked the post and many thanks for sharing your experiences with asking. As you say, we can be so pleasantly surprised by people’s responses when we ask.

      The story you shared about what happened with Dropbox is amazing. It’s great that you asked themto help you out as a student, and Dropbox also demonstrated compassion in helping you out.

      Many thanks for commenting, Chris! Hope you’re having a wonderful weekend! 🙂

  16. Hi Hiten,

    There’re many advantages by asking, and actually asking takes more courage than not asking inmost cases.

    For some reason, I’ve never really liked asking anything to others, because I always feel that I’m bothering the other persona while my whole life a lot of people have asked a lot of me and I’ve always been so willing to help and give that I had to had to put a brake to this.

    You’re right, we can’t do it all and when necessary, we need to ask. for help.

    1. Hi Sylviane,

      What you wrote about asking taking courage is very true. Like you, I too have had challenges with asking others (I think you and I are quite similar!) and it is an area I’ve had to work on. It was only when I got into the workplace and got into running businesses that I realised I needed to be assertive and ask for help, otherwise I would remain stuck.

      Many thanks for commenting, Sylviane. Hope you’re having a great weekend! 🙂

  17. My father likes to preach to me about the value of asking. He said that people love when they are asked about anything. I think this is because it gives them the perception that they are valuable and useful to others.

    Anyway, thanks for the post, Hiten.

  18. The things which usually make people feel complex about asking a question is that they feel scared and shy both. They feel as if how would I look if I ask out a question? I mean a question is a question, there is nothing more or less to it. There is nothing called an intelligent question or a stupid question. Its just a mind over matter.

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